Life is about taking risk. Many people would agree but some others may not agree with the statement. Some people are just not a risk taker. They are people who sticks with the routines and comfortable with what they achieved and what they have.
Some may says that if you don't take risk, then you won't be successful. Is that true? There are people who are successful and they don't take risk or maybe just a minimal risk. They just do things according to the rules and make it as their routines. No risk but yet successful or maybe they are just lucky.
Some may say, if you don't take some risk, your life will be boring. How true is that? Honestly, I can't really comment on that. I know a person who is not a risk taker but he is totally happy with his life. He never said that he's bored with his life. So, we can really say that no risk taking means life will be boring.
Some will say, if you are willing to take more risk, then you'll achieve more and be more successful. I actually quite agree with this. Seeing Tan Sri Tony Fernandes, how he risk his music business to be successful with the Air Asia business. I really envy his bravery and his effort.
People take risk to achieve success in life but there are people who already achieved most of the things in their life but still taking risk just for pleasure. They risk their family, friends, relationship or even their job just for fun. Just to have some extra pleasure for a very short time.
Whatever the choice, whether taking risk or not, people have their own reason on making their choices. Personally, I believe, you'll never free from encountering some kind of risk when you are living the life. I do realised that I'm also risking some of the things I love in achieving what I want. Maybe not as much as Tan Sri Tony Fernandes but it's quite significant for me.
I'm not regretting for whatever I have risked. I'm just looking forward with my life. The only question that keep ringing in my mind is ......... is it worth?
Friday 7 October 2011
Friday 30 September 2011
Unlimited imagination
Yesterday, one my friend said that I am a very imaginative person. Alhamdulillah (Praise to Allah) that at this age ( after 40 ), I'm still an imaginative person.
Imagination is something that everybody has it and it seems to be more during the childhood time and it reduces when we get older and at some point, there are people who totally lost it. How can that happen? I don't know. I can't even understand how people can live without having imagination.
When we were children, we have a lot of imaginations. One day, we can just be happy and imagine that we are in the castle and being a spoil little princes and the other day, we can just imagine we are the police trying to catch the bad people. Hhmn ... how nice. Nothing seems to bother with our life but that is just a childhood imagination.
Then, we start using our imagination with some effort to make it true. We imagine, we dream and we work for it. We imagine things that applicable and being more rational with our imagination. The imagination force us to be more creative and committed in making what we imagine into reality. At this point, we start achieving most of the things that we imagine in our life.
We feel happy with our life and what we achieved. We continue the routines, we stabilised but for some of us, we stop imagining and stucked with the routines. Our brain get lazy and lazier each day. Not to say that we get lazy to do thing in our life but for some people, the get very lazy to think about new things. They claimed that they are very comfortable with what they have. Everyday life will just be as usual and nothing unusual can be found.
How does that sound? Interesting...? Of course not. Maybe, we don't realised it but this is what happening to some of us. Life is just the usual or actually it sounds so boring. Why? Because we are lacking of imagination and the source of our creativity.
Why? Why do we need to be imaginative and creative? Maybe, some of us will ask the question. To answer the question, we also need to ask ourselves on why do we need to stop our imagination when we not even dead yet? Yes! Yes, we need to have an imagination because we are still alive. Our life change in every second, in every breath we take .... that's why.
So, why do we have to stop imagining? Does that mean we want to stop dreaming and stop living. There's no borders for imagination. It's unlimited, just like the unlimited internet broadband but it's even better because after all, it's free.
Imagination is something that everybody has it and it seems to be more during the childhood time and it reduces when we get older and at some point, there are people who totally lost it. How can that happen? I don't know. I can't even understand how people can live without having imagination.
When we were children, we have a lot of imaginations. One day, we can just be happy and imagine that we are in the castle and being a spoil little princes and the other day, we can just imagine we are the police trying to catch the bad people. Hhmn ... how nice. Nothing seems to bother with our life but that is just a childhood imagination.
Then, we start using our imagination with some effort to make it true. We imagine, we dream and we work for it. We imagine things that applicable and being more rational with our imagination. The imagination force us to be more creative and committed in making what we imagine into reality. At this point, we start achieving most of the things that we imagine in our life.
We feel happy with our life and what we achieved. We continue the routines, we stabilised but for some of us, we stop imagining and stucked with the routines. Our brain get lazy and lazier each day. Not to say that we get lazy to do thing in our life but for some people, the get very lazy to think about new things. They claimed that they are very comfortable with what they have. Everyday life will just be as usual and nothing unusual can be found.
How does that sound? Interesting...? Of course not. Maybe, we don't realised it but this is what happening to some of us. Life is just the usual or actually it sounds so boring. Why? Because we are lacking of imagination and the source of our creativity.
Why? Why do we need to be imaginative and creative? Maybe, some of us will ask the question. To answer the question, we also need to ask ourselves on why do we need to stop our imagination when we not even dead yet? Yes! Yes, we need to have an imagination because we are still alive. Our life change in every second, in every breath we take .... that's why.
So, why do we have to stop imagining? Does that mean we want to stop dreaming and stop living. There's no borders for imagination. It's unlimited, just like the unlimited internet broadband but it's even better because after all, it's free.
Tuesday 27 September 2011
Nothing to blame
The last few months I don't feel motivated at all. Sometimes, I don't even feel like doing anything at all and few times I feel like giving up whatever I'm doing. It is just not like me at all. I was not like this. I'm suppose to be a women full with desire. Full with all the positive aura, always looking forward and happy with what I'm doing. So, ...... what happened?
Then, the normal thing to do first is to reflect on what had happened. So, I keep reflecting, reflecting and reflecting but just couldn't find the source of the problem. I'm in a very serious problem now because this feeling has been dragging me down and down. Sometimes, I feel as if I'm so low. No desire to get myself to do something new or something extra. It's really bad.
I know ....... it's very important for us to know the source of the problem in order to solve it but what happen if you can't find the source. Is that mean you'll be forever in the problem .... without solutions? At least, I thought that was it until yesterday. Yesterday,..... yes. Yesterday, I read an article in the newspaper about how cooperation bind us but it was not the cooperation topic that catch my eyes but how the author write about how we always we refuse to cooperate and blame on others when thing goes wrong. Does that sound familiar?
Yes ..... of course. We always blame the uncooperative people in out team for not achieving the goals but why bother (as what the author says). Yes, why should we bother too much on the uncooperative people. If they are not so cooperative, so, we should increase our cooperation.
So, applying what the author said to my problem now. Doesn't matter whether I found the source of my problem or not, I have to turn my feelings 360 degree now. Don't blame on anybody or anything. I'm not happy with myself now ....... I'll find something that will make me happy. I don't agree with some people in the work place ........ I'll work more with the people I like or I agreed with. Just focus more on how to be positive and feels good about myself rather to find the thing that making me miserable ...... maybe ..... at the moment.
The thing is ....... focus on the improvement. There's nobody or nothing to blame.
Then, the normal thing to do first is to reflect on what had happened. So, I keep reflecting, reflecting and reflecting but just couldn't find the source of the problem. I'm in a very serious problem now because this feeling has been dragging me down and down. Sometimes, I feel as if I'm so low. No desire to get myself to do something new or something extra. It's really bad.
I know ....... it's very important for us to know the source of the problem in order to solve it but what happen if you can't find the source. Is that mean you'll be forever in the problem .... without solutions? At least, I thought that was it until yesterday. Yesterday,..... yes. Yesterday, I read an article in the newspaper about how cooperation bind us but it was not the cooperation topic that catch my eyes but how the author write about how we always we refuse to cooperate and blame on others when thing goes wrong. Does that sound familiar?
Yes ..... of course. We always blame the uncooperative people in out team for not achieving the goals but why bother (as what the author says). Yes, why should we bother too much on the uncooperative people. If they are not so cooperative, so, we should increase our cooperation.
So, applying what the author said to my problem now. Doesn't matter whether I found the source of my problem or not, I have to turn my feelings 360 degree now. Don't blame on anybody or anything. I'm not happy with myself now ....... I'll find something that will make me happy. I don't agree with some people in the work place ........ I'll work more with the people I like or I agreed with. Just focus more on how to be positive and feels good about myself rather to find the thing that making me miserable ...... maybe ..... at the moment.
The thing is ....... focus on the improvement. There's nobody or nothing to blame.
Monday 5 September 2011
Communications ...... keeping it the traditional way
Eid Mubarak or Selamat Hari Raya everybody!
I love Hari Raya. Of course it's different compare when we were children but having everybody together on the Hari Raya morning, asking for forgiveness from each other and having breakfast together at the same time on the same table. These are some of the things that you can't really find it on most of other days. It gives you such a very nice feeling.
It's already 5th of Syawal and it's Saturday. Most people starts working today. It's Monday. My brother and my sister came back from their in laws hometown last Saturday. Everybody gather at my parent house. Just imagine, with 6 brothers and sisters, 5 nieces and nephews, 3 in-laws and not to forget ...... my parent, the house should be very, very noisy with people talking, children screaming or with whatever activities, right. At least, that was what I imagine how it should be but instead, it was so quiet. Everybody seems to be very focus on what they were doing. And what were they doing .....? Communicating with the world.
Yes! Communicating .....! They were communicating with the world with the internet and the social network. They were communicating ....... but not talking. They chat online but not with the people besides them. They rather send text messages on the phone then talking on it. The rather smile to the screen then smiling to the people next to them.
Aargh!!! I just don't get it. It's a phenomenon. It's not just with my family but it's happening everywhere ... anywhere. Sometimes I feel like humans are getting crazier each day. Is it because of the technology or just because of the modernisation. Maybe, I'm just too old fashion and not able to keep myself with the modernisation and the changes.
Last month, before the fasting month started, I saw a couple at a coffee shop having their coffee together. It's kind of romantic .... to have coffee together before going to the office. But ....... this couple, each of them were browsing their netbook and not even talking to each other. So, why bother to have coffee together when you are not interested to chat with each other. Again ....... I just don't get it.
Last week, I read a news in the internet where a bridesmaid attended her best friend wedding via iPad. I'm speechless. I just can't give any comment on that. If I was the bride, I prefer my best friend to be next to me physically. So that I can hug her to share my happiness but different people has different perception. I can't argue with that. Maybe I'm just too old fashion.
Last few years, there was a case of a teleconference wedding. This couple stay apart of each other but they want to get married. So, the solemnisation was done via teleconference. Let us just think for a while here, if you can't be together why bother to get married in the first place.
I admit. I'm a very old fashion person when it comes to communications. I believe in the eye contact while talking. I believe in listening to the voice tone to feel the warmth, caring, happiness or even sadness. I believe in the voice therapy and it's really good for your soul. Sometimes, it's good to be quiet and just send some text instead of talking is still a good therapy.
There is nothing wrong with the use of the technology but we must also remember that some of the things is still better to do the the traditional way. Keep communicating but don't stop talking to each other. Show that you care. Pour it with your loving voice. Keep the traditional way.
I love Hari Raya. Of course it's different compare when we were children but having everybody together on the Hari Raya morning, asking for forgiveness from each other and having breakfast together at the same time on the same table. These are some of the things that you can't really find it on most of other days. It gives you such a very nice feeling.
It's already 5th of Syawal and it's Saturday. Most people starts working today. It's Monday. My brother and my sister came back from their in laws hometown last Saturday. Everybody gather at my parent house. Just imagine, with 6 brothers and sisters, 5 nieces and nephews, 3 in-laws and not to forget ...... my parent, the house should be very, very noisy with people talking, children screaming or with whatever activities, right. At least, that was what I imagine how it should be but instead, it was so quiet. Everybody seems to be very focus on what they were doing. And what were they doing .....? Communicating with the world.
Yes! Communicating .....! They were communicating with the world with the internet and the social network. They were communicating ....... but not talking. They chat online but not with the people besides them. They rather send text messages on the phone then talking on it. The rather smile to the screen then smiling to the people next to them.
Aargh!!! I just don't get it. It's a phenomenon. It's not just with my family but it's happening everywhere ... anywhere. Sometimes I feel like humans are getting crazier each day. Is it because of the technology or just because of the modernisation. Maybe, I'm just too old fashion and not able to keep myself with the modernisation and the changes.
Last month, before the fasting month started, I saw a couple at a coffee shop having their coffee together. It's kind of romantic .... to have coffee together before going to the office. But ....... this couple, each of them were browsing their netbook and not even talking to each other. So, why bother to have coffee together when you are not interested to chat with each other. Again ....... I just don't get it.
Last week, I read a news in the internet where a bridesmaid attended her best friend wedding via iPad. I'm speechless. I just can't give any comment on that. If I was the bride, I prefer my best friend to be next to me physically. So that I can hug her to share my happiness but different people has different perception. I can't argue with that. Maybe I'm just too old fashion.
Last few years, there was a case of a teleconference wedding. This couple stay apart of each other but they want to get married. So, the solemnisation was done via teleconference. Let us just think for a while here, if you can't be together why bother to get married in the first place.
I admit. I'm a very old fashion person when it comes to communications. I believe in the eye contact while talking. I believe in listening to the voice tone to feel the warmth, caring, happiness or even sadness. I believe in the voice therapy and it's really good for your soul. Sometimes, it's good to be quiet and just send some text instead of talking is still a good therapy.
There is nothing wrong with the use of the technology but we must also remember that some of the things is still better to do the the traditional way. Keep communicating but don't stop talking to each other. Show that you care. Pour it with your loving voice. Keep the traditional way.
Friday 19 August 2011
First impression
It only takes seven second to make a first impression.
I always remind my students about how important a first impression is but it doesn't seems to stick into the mind of this new generation. As a professional, I always try to look as professional as I can but I love to dress up anyway.
People do judge you from what you are wearing. They may who you are from what and how your wear. As for me, I know people do look and judge me from what I'm wearing or even with the colour of my dress because they do make a comment about what I'm wearing. I don't really mind about it because it reminds me to always look at myself and to dress properly. So, dressing up is one of the important aspect of how our day will be.
Today, I saw few students came to the class with faded, crumpled jeans with non-ironed T-shirt and slippers. Looking at that kind of dress up ............what will be your first impression? Me ....... ? I would say .... they look like they are working at the night market . They don't even look like a student to me. Just imagine, they are the people who are going to be a nurse. A person who's going to take care of other people ......????
Maybe, you would say that I'm just being old fashioned. Not keeping myself up to date. Yes ! Maybe I am an old fashion person. (I'm getting old anyway). I don't care what people wan't to say about my choice of fashion but I do believe, we must dress according to the situation and occasion. Doesn't matter how up to date you are, you must still follow the rules, the culture and the norms. If you are a student, then portray yourself as a student. If you are going to be a professional, then learn how to dress like one. Do not give the chance for other people to put the negative impression on you.
Please, please ..... take care of yourself. Always try to put a good or positive impression on yourself. People might not know you but from the way you look, they might want to get to know you or might not want to know you at all. And the thing is, people will only get to know you after they see you. So, make sure that they see you well, have a nice thought about you and want to get to know you.
So, first impression counts.
I always remind my students about how important a first impression is but it doesn't seems to stick into the mind of this new generation. As a professional, I always try to look as professional as I can but I love to dress up anyway.
People do judge you from what you are wearing. They may who you are from what and how your wear. As for me, I know people do look and judge me from what I'm wearing or even with the colour of my dress because they do make a comment about what I'm wearing. I don't really mind about it because it reminds me to always look at myself and to dress properly. So, dressing up is one of the important aspect of how our day will be.
Today, I saw few students came to the class with faded, crumpled jeans with non-ironed T-shirt and slippers. Looking at that kind of dress up ............what will be your first impression? Me ....... ? I would say .... they look like they are working at the night market . They don't even look like a student to me. Just imagine, they are the people who are going to be a nurse. A person who's going to take care of other people ......????
Maybe, you would say that I'm just being old fashioned. Not keeping myself up to date. Yes ! Maybe I am an old fashion person. (I'm getting old anyway). I don't care what people wan't to say about my choice of fashion but I do believe, we must dress according to the situation and occasion. Doesn't matter how up to date you are, you must still follow the rules, the culture and the norms. If you are a student, then portray yourself as a student. If you are going to be a professional, then learn how to dress like one. Do not give the chance for other people to put the negative impression on you.
Please, please ..... take care of yourself. Always try to put a good or positive impression on yourself. People might not know you but from the way you look, they might want to get to know you or might not want to know you at all. And the thing is, people will only get to know you after they see you. So, make sure that they see you well, have a nice thought about you and want to get to know you.
So, first impression counts.
Tuesday 16 August 2011
Think before the action
Ideally, we must always think before we take any action against anything but sometimes our mind can act irrationally which we don't really think about what we do and especially of what we say. Most of the time it happened when we let our anger to overtake our emotion. We will just say what we want (at that time ... of course) or do some destructive action like throwing cups and plates. (my dad used to do that) but later ........ we regret.
Everyday, I'm trying very hard not to hurt people with my words or with my actions. Always trying to remind myself not to say something that I will regret later. It seems very hard to do ........ but it's possible. We must try to control our super ego not to take over our id and ego. I know, .......... it's very hard but this is the way of life that we should try to change, so that we will have the harmony in life.
Last week, one my friend tried to help the students with their problem in organizing smaller groups within them. Yeah ..... sometimes they like you to be in their critical discussion. So,this friend of mine happily help them to organize the groups and the group leader and everything. The students were happy with the decisions and their new groups but somebody else wasn't happy. The lecturer in-charge of the students was not happy at all. He was angry that my friend had helped the students because he said that he already gave an instruction to the students and it is totally different with what my friend did and continue mumbling ......... bla..bla..bla...
Come on ...... people already helped you to solve a problem. You should be saying thank you but instead ..... you scold the person? Why can't he think and rationalise the whole thing before he scolded my friend? Maybe, my friend has trigger his super ego and it increased too much and suppressed the id and ego. Anyway, my friend just apologise helping the students without his prior knowledge and she said that she will inform the students about it to correct the situation.
Hhmmnnn ....... what you know ...... he scolded the students too. So, I'm just wondering, when did he think about the whole thing and come to a decision that the students must be scolded. Most probably, he didn't think at all. It was quite a sad situation because now everybody looks so miserable just because of one person who doesn't want to think before he took his actions. He looks the worst. Maybe he feel guilty but to apologise ......... I haven't seen the sign yet.
Anyway, the lesson to learn is ......... think before you do or say anything. We have millions of neurons (brain cells) that can be use for thinking and still left with million unuse. Do not do something that will make other people sad and miserable. Do not do things that will make ourselves uncomfortable and miserable. Think about other peoples' feeling. Improve the communication skills. Control your emotion and your super ego .................... and think before you do the action.
Everyday, I'm trying very hard not to hurt people with my words or with my actions. Always trying to remind myself not to say something that I will regret later. It seems very hard to do ........ but it's possible. We must try to control our super ego not to take over our id and ego. I know, .......... it's very hard but this is the way of life that we should try to change, so that we will have the harmony in life.
Last week, one my friend tried to help the students with their problem in organizing smaller groups within them. Yeah ..... sometimes they like you to be in their critical discussion. So,this friend of mine happily help them to organize the groups and the group leader and everything. The students were happy with the decisions and their new groups but somebody else wasn't happy. The lecturer in-charge of the students was not happy at all. He was angry that my friend had helped the students because he said that he already gave an instruction to the students and it is totally different with what my friend did and continue mumbling ......... bla..bla..bla...
Come on ...... people already helped you to solve a problem. You should be saying thank you but instead ..... you scold the person? Why can't he think and rationalise the whole thing before he scolded my friend? Maybe, my friend has trigger his super ego and it increased too much and suppressed the id and ego. Anyway, my friend just apologise helping the students without his prior knowledge and she said that she will inform the students about it to correct the situation.
Hhmmnnn ....... what you know ...... he scolded the students too. So, I'm just wondering, when did he think about the whole thing and come to a decision that the students must be scolded. Most probably, he didn't think at all. It was quite a sad situation because now everybody looks so miserable just because of one person who doesn't want to think before he took his actions. He looks the worst. Maybe he feel guilty but to apologise ......... I haven't seen the sign yet.
Anyway, the lesson to learn is ......... think before you do or say anything. We have millions of neurons (brain cells) that can be use for thinking and still left with million unuse. Do not do something that will make other people sad and miserable. Do not do things that will make ourselves uncomfortable and miserable. Think about other peoples' feeling. Improve the communication skills. Control your emotion and your super ego .................... and think before you do the action.
Tuesday 9 August 2011
You'll never win all ...... you have to loose some.
Today, I've expressed my feelings to a friend about working in my current work place. I love my work, teaching, the students, the colleagues but my heart was never in the place. I'm actually happy and unhappy at the same time ......? Sounds funny...... but that is what I'm feeling all this while. Yeah! Life is sometimes funny and my friend said ' Nis .... in this life, you'll never win all, you have to loose some'.
Yes! That's life. It's just like the saying of 'Nobody is perfect'. Nobody is perfect and there's no 100% perfect life. There will always be some level or some percentage of deformities or imperfections. Hhmn....... thinking about imperfections .......... which is actually good for us. It's one of the reason of why we work hard for a better life .... right?
Yes! How can we win all without having to know the feeling of loosing. Life is about GIVE and TAKE. You can't just TAKE all the times. You'll also need to GIVE sometimes. We just need to have some tolerance to the people around us and the environment we are in.
So, now I'm just reflecting about my whole life. Reflecting on how much have I won and how much have I lost. Hhmnn ..... can't really complain much because it seems that I've won more that what I've lost. I should just be grateful for what I have but I doesn't mean that I've to work less harder now. I'll still have to work hard for a better future.
It is true then, you'll never win everything but you need to reflect on how much you won and balance with how much you lost. Be grateful on what we won because that is our life achievement granted by ALLAH from our hard work but never regret on what we lost because that is the reason why we don't stop to strive and work for a better day and a better future.
It is just how life is.
Yes! That's life. It's just like the saying of 'Nobody is perfect'. Nobody is perfect and there's no 100% perfect life. There will always be some level or some percentage of deformities or imperfections. Hhmn....... thinking about imperfections .......... which is actually good for us. It's one of the reason of why we work hard for a better life .... right?
Yes! How can we win all without having to know the feeling of loosing. Life is about GIVE and TAKE. You can't just TAKE all the times. You'll also need to GIVE sometimes. We just need to have some tolerance to the people around us and the environment we are in.
So, now I'm just reflecting about my whole life. Reflecting on how much have I won and how much have I lost. Hhmnn ..... can't really complain much because it seems that I've won more that what I've lost. I should just be grateful for what I have but I doesn't mean that I've to work less harder now. I'll still have to work hard for a better future.
It is true then, you'll never win everything but you need to reflect on how much you won and balance with how much you lost. Be grateful on what we won because that is our life achievement granted by ALLAH from our hard work but never regret on what we lost because that is the reason why we don't stop to strive and work for a better day and a better future.
It is just how life is.
Wednesday 27 July 2011
Putting theory into practice
It is always easy to say than to do. Agree?
Me? Totally agree. I don't know about you but I strongly agree on that. Most people are very good in seeking knowledge, disseminating the knowledge to others (that is what they claimed they are doing) and motivates other people to apply the knowledge into daily practice. They are very good in communicating with others. The way they described each step of the process as if they have done it a million time. You feel so motivated (at least on that day) to do it yourself. The best of all, they are also very good in identifying your weaknesses or in other word .... your MISTAKE.
Ironically, they are the people who sometimes never experience a bit of what they say. They don't event know the reality of what they are saying. All the things they presented on the screen or in the classroom or in the conference are based on the theory. The perfect theory.
The funniest part is when people start questioning the theory with your practice. They will start jumping (emotionally) and start labelling you with all the hi-fi words which actually wth a simple meaning saying that you are just being negative. Hhmnn .......
Amazingly, people want to believe this people who says they are doing it from the people who actually doing the work and on top of that the people who's actually struggle to practice the theory will be labelled as NOT PERFORMING. The thing is ...... if you ask them to show how to do it ........ they will create another theory to cover the first theory they taught without actually answering the actual question.
Bottom of the story, if you want people to look up on you and to respect you, you must practice what you preach. As in Malay, it says 'CAKAP TAK SERUPA BIKIN'.(the talk is not like the doing). Don't just have theory, but refuse to practice or even worse, expecting other people to practice it but you yourself never have any intention to practice it.
Remember, it's not easy to gain peoples' respect and once you loose people respect, it's never easy to get it back. So, my dear friends, please remind each other, practice what you preach and remember to put the theory into our daily practice.
Me? Totally agree. I don't know about you but I strongly agree on that. Most people are very good in seeking knowledge, disseminating the knowledge to others (that is what they claimed they are doing) and motivates other people to apply the knowledge into daily practice. They are very good in communicating with others. The way they described each step of the process as if they have done it a million time. You feel so motivated (at least on that day) to do it yourself. The best of all, they are also very good in identifying your weaknesses or in other word .... your MISTAKE.
Ironically, they are the people who sometimes never experience a bit of what they say. They don't event know the reality of what they are saying. All the things they presented on the screen or in the classroom or in the conference are based on the theory. The perfect theory.
The funniest part is when people start questioning the theory with your practice. They will start jumping (emotionally) and start labelling you with all the hi-fi words which actually wth a simple meaning saying that you are just being negative. Hhmnn .......
Amazingly, people want to believe this people who says they are doing it from the people who actually doing the work and on top of that the people who's actually struggle to practice the theory will be labelled as NOT PERFORMING. The thing is ...... if you ask them to show how to do it ........ they will create another theory to cover the first theory they taught without actually answering the actual question.
Bottom of the story, if you want people to look up on you and to respect you, you must practice what you preach. As in Malay, it says 'CAKAP TAK SERUPA BIKIN'.(the talk is not like the doing). Don't just have theory, but refuse to practice or even worse, expecting other people to practice it but you yourself never have any intention to practice it.
Remember, it's not easy to gain peoples' respect and once you loose people respect, it's never easy to get it back. So, my dear friends, please remind each other, practice what you preach and remember to put the theory into our daily practice.
Monday 25 July 2011
Broaden the perspective
Different people, different age, different gender and lot of other differences make us view and value in each items in our life differently ..... of course. But for us to be together and live together in harmony and happily, we must have some similarity. Some values that we agree on it. Like our belief in good and bad. Most of us share the same value on what we perceive to good or bad. Basically, most of us agree on the basic principles of life.
When we grow older, the more we learn and understand about ourself, our life and the life around us.We adjust and we adapt to new people, new surrounding, new job, new weather and lot of other new things along the way. We learn from our mistakes and achievements. I mean ..... we should learn something right ...??
Now, it is the 21st century. Computers are widely use. People communicate with other people who live half-way around the world easily ...... as if we are talking to our next door neighbour. Most of us has mobile phone. Some of us ...... have more than one. Some people, they don't even have to go out from the house to earn money, because they are working from home. The way of living is changing and some of it is really, really changed.
Okay, whether you realised it or not ....... the world and the way of living on this world is changed and still changing. Doesn't matter whether you like it or not. It is beyond our control. What can we do? We must adapt to the changes. Try to make the best from the changes. Try to live in this world but at the same time maintaining the good values of life.
We have to live in the present and learn from the past. Please....... please...... and please! Move on! Please do not practise ALL the things you used to do in this present world. Ya Allah! Please Bless me. Amin. I am so tired living around people who is still living in their life 20 years ago or 30 years ago or even older than that. I'm not saying that I'm young. This is not about old or young but it 's about adapting ourself into the present with a broader perspective.
Honestly, I truly, truly enjoyed the way I lived in 20 years ago. There's absolutely nothing wrong about it but we cannot compare the past and the present.Do not start your conversation with 'those days ........ 'especially when you are talking to the younger generation. Of course it's different because we are now at the present. Do not continuously tell this younger generation on how hard your life was. Most of them ..... cannot appreciate that because the did not experience it. Do not tell about how things being done in your time because they never seen the way it's being done before. Do not tell them that they are wrong when you don't know the right way. In summary, they are just different.
Yes, the new generations are different but it doesn't mean that we cannot instil the good value into them. It doesn't mean that they cannot have the same basic principle of life. They have to know all the good things and to continue with the good value of life. It's just that we have to adapt to their way of learning, communicating and how the see things around them. So, it's up to us to be more adaptive and creative in instilling the good values into them.
The most important thing is, we must change our perspective. We must learn to see things in a wider context. Start thinking with a broader mind. Move away from 'those days .......' Lead the young with being together teaching and learning with them.
When we grow older, the more we learn and understand about ourself, our life and the life around us.We adjust and we adapt to new people, new surrounding, new job, new weather and lot of other new things along the way. We learn from our mistakes and achievements. I mean ..... we should learn something right ...??
Now, it is the 21st century. Computers are widely use. People communicate with other people who live half-way around the world easily ...... as if we are talking to our next door neighbour. Most of us has mobile phone. Some of us ...... have more than one. Some people, they don't even have to go out from the house to earn money, because they are working from home. The way of living is changing and some of it is really, really changed.
Okay, whether you realised it or not ....... the world and the way of living on this world is changed and still changing. Doesn't matter whether you like it or not. It is beyond our control. What can we do? We must adapt to the changes. Try to make the best from the changes. Try to live in this world but at the same time maintaining the good values of life.
We have to live in the present and learn from the past. Please....... please...... and please! Move on! Please do not practise ALL the things you used to do in this present world. Ya Allah! Please Bless me. Amin. I am so tired living around people who is still living in their life 20 years ago or 30 years ago or even older than that. I'm not saying that I'm young. This is not about old or young but it 's about adapting ourself into the present with a broader perspective.
Honestly, I truly, truly enjoyed the way I lived in 20 years ago. There's absolutely nothing wrong about it but we cannot compare the past and the present.Do not start your conversation with 'those days ........ 'especially when you are talking to the younger generation. Of course it's different because we are now at the present. Do not continuously tell this younger generation on how hard your life was. Most of them ..... cannot appreciate that because the did not experience it. Do not tell about how things being done in your time because they never seen the way it's being done before. Do not tell them that they are wrong when you don't know the right way. In summary, they are just different.
Yes, the new generations are different but it doesn't mean that we cannot instil the good value into them. It doesn't mean that they cannot have the same basic principle of life. They have to know all the good things and to continue with the good value of life. It's just that we have to adapt to their way of learning, communicating and how the see things around them. So, it's up to us to be more adaptive and creative in instilling the good values into them.
The most important thing is, we must change our perspective. We must learn to see things in a wider context. Start thinking with a broader mind. Move away from 'those days .......' Lead the young with being together teaching and learning with them.
Thursday 14 July 2011
Less is more
Yes ..... less is more but not to say that you should work less for more things to achieve. Of course you have to work more to gain more but I'm just going to give my view on what I think about less is more.
Yesterday, a friend showed me a nice photo that has won some prizes for best photo award. Yes, I do think it is a nice photo but I'm not really fond of it. Why? Because from my view, it has too much stuff , too many ideas were put into a piece a picture. Too stuffy. Just my opinion.
Personally, I like something simple but nice. I feel that my life is already complicated. I believe in making things simple. Not to complicate yourself and other people. I believe in making thing simple will also help other people to understand more on what we are trying to say or to present. We shouldn't distract other people attention from what we want to show them.
Maybe, because I am a nurse and also as an educator now. Most of the time I'm practising the principle of teaching ...... making it simple for other people to understand but I also think that this principle apply to lot of activities in our life. For example, in the arts of putting make-up ..... just see how the emphasize is on a certain part of the face and not on all over the face. If the person is trying to emphasize on the eyes, then she'll put a little extra colours on the eyes but all the other areas will have a minimal make-up and she'll look pretty. It goes the same with how we dress. You do not wear stripes, ruffles and checkers at the same time ..... do you? Or you'll look like a christmas tree.
Of course people are different. We are individual. We have different views and values. There's nothing wrong of expressing yourself in your way. It may look complicated to others but maybe not for you. It's your choice and other people have their own choice but we must remember that we live together with other people in this world. Making things simple for others .... may lead to a our simple life.
Doesn't matter how much jewellery we have, we don't have to wear it all at one time. Doesn't matter how beautiful we want to be, we don't have to put all the make-up on the face. Doesn't matter how much ideas we have, we don't have to bring it out all at a time. What I'm trying to say is just that ..... LESS IS MORE.
Yesterday, a friend showed me a nice photo that has won some prizes for best photo award. Yes, I do think it is a nice photo but I'm not really fond of it. Why? Because from my view, it has too much stuff , too many ideas were put into a piece a picture. Too stuffy. Just my opinion.
Personally, I like something simple but nice. I feel that my life is already complicated. I believe in making things simple. Not to complicate yourself and other people. I believe in making thing simple will also help other people to understand more on what we are trying to say or to present. We shouldn't distract other people attention from what we want to show them.
Maybe, because I am a nurse and also as an educator now. Most of the time I'm practising the principle of teaching ...... making it simple for other people to understand but I also think that this principle apply to lot of activities in our life. For example, in the arts of putting make-up ..... just see how the emphasize is on a certain part of the face and not on all over the face. If the person is trying to emphasize on the eyes, then she'll put a little extra colours on the eyes but all the other areas will have a minimal make-up and she'll look pretty. It goes the same with how we dress. You do not wear stripes, ruffles and checkers at the same time ..... do you? Or you'll look like a christmas tree.
Of course people are different. We are individual. We have different views and values. There's nothing wrong of expressing yourself in your way. It may look complicated to others but maybe not for you. It's your choice and other people have their own choice but we must remember that we live together with other people in this world. Making things simple for others .... may lead to a our simple life.
Doesn't matter how much jewellery we have, we don't have to wear it all at one time. Doesn't matter how beautiful we want to be, we don't have to put all the make-up on the face. Doesn't matter how much ideas we have, we don't have to bring it out all at a time. What I'm trying to say is just that ..... LESS IS MORE.
Monday 11 July 2011
Token of appreciation
Last week was quite a 'hot' week in my work place. There were some happy people, some unhappy people and very unhappy people. Sound just like a normal day right? But it was not a very normal week for me.
So, what was it about? It is about one of most influential thing in the world ...... MONEY. Yes, it's about money. Money, money, money. Last week, some of the staffs in my work place got a salary increment. ONLY SOME. It was a happy event for those who got it but for the other some ...... it caused lot of dissatisfaction.
Me? Did I get it? Huh! Unfortunately I didn't get it ........ yet. (Still hoping for it). Angry? ......... sort of. Sad? .... yes. Dissapointed? ........ of course. Dissatisfied? ....... absolutely. On top of everything ....... i feel unappreciated.
Of course it's always nice to have an extra money but that is not the true issue. It's actually an issue of appreciation. Appreciating other people hard work with a token. It may sound so materialistic but it is a method of thanking and appreciating your staff and other people who has help you. Tell me ....... how many time do you get a 'thank you' from your bosses? Maybe some of us get more from others but for some ....... not a word.
I know, it's almost impossible to please all the people around us. People are just different because they are an individual. They have different needs and different objective in life. But doesn't matter how different we are, we do have the same psychosocial needs. We need to be supported (at different level accordingly) and we need to be acknowledge and appreciated. We need all this to make us feel good about the work we are doing, being in the place we are and being around the people we work with.
As the leaders, we should be able to recognize and identify the people to be acknowledge and to be appreciated. (What am I saying...?) Basically, leaders must acknowledge and appreciate the staff hard work and the effort that they have given to the organisation. The leaders must know their staffs, their followers, their fans (if applicable ..ha..ha..). They actually must know everybody.
So, should everybody get a token of appreciation. YES! Yes they should. Then you will say that it will cost a lot. Really? How much does it cost you to say thank you to people that help you to build your career? How much does it cost you to say thank you for the people that maintain your reputation all these years? How much does it cost you to say 'hi' and how are you? How much doest it cost you to just knowing your staff? How much? How much is it?
Sometimes I feel that this world is full with ungrateful people. People who think that they achieved all the things in their life on their own. People who think that they are the smartest people in the world. People who think that they know everything but unfortunately they only think about themselves. ONLY THEMSELVES.
I'm trying to be positive each day but the feeling of not being appreciated has pull me my motivation down. Down to a very, very low level. I must just remind my heart to be more sincere each day in what I'm doing. Nursing is my heart and teaching is my soul. I shouldn't be asking for any token for doing what I love to do but it will feel even greater if it is acknowledge and appreciated.
I'm also trying very hard to be a better person each day. So, to all my friends and to all the people who read this, THANK YOU for all your support. I really appreciate it.
So, what was it about? It is about one of most influential thing in the world ...... MONEY. Yes, it's about money. Money, money, money. Last week, some of the staffs in my work place got a salary increment. ONLY SOME. It was a happy event for those who got it but for the other some ...... it caused lot of dissatisfaction.
Me? Did I get it? Huh! Unfortunately I didn't get it ........ yet. (Still hoping for it). Angry? ......... sort of. Sad? .... yes. Dissapointed? ........ of course. Dissatisfied? ....... absolutely. On top of everything ....... i feel unappreciated.
Of course it's always nice to have an extra money but that is not the true issue. It's actually an issue of appreciation. Appreciating other people hard work with a token. It may sound so materialistic but it is a method of thanking and appreciating your staff and other people who has help you. Tell me ....... how many time do you get a 'thank you' from your bosses? Maybe some of us get more from others but for some ....... not a word.
I know, it's almost impossible to please all the people around us. People are just different because they are an individual. They have different needs and different objective in life. But doesn't matter how different we are, we do have the same psychosocial needs. We need to be supported (at different level accordingly) and we need to be acknowledge and appreciated. We need all this to make us feel good about the work we are doing, being in the place we are and being around the people we work with.
As the leaders, we should be able to recognize and identify the people to be acknowledge and to be appreciated. (What am I saying...?) Basically, leaders must acknowledge and appreciate the staff hard work and the effort that they have given to the organisation. The leaders must know their staffs, their followers, their fans (if applicable ..ha..ha..). They actually must know everybody.
So, should everybody get a token of appreciation. YES! Yes they should. Then you will say that it will cost a lot. Really? How much does it cost you to say thank you to people that help you to build your career? How much does it cost you to say thank you for the people that maintain your reputation all these years? How much does it cost you to say 'hi' and how are you? How much doest it cost you to just knowing your staff? How much? How much is it?
Sometimes I feel that this world is full with ungrateful people. People who think that they achieved all the things in their life on their own. People who think that they are the smartest people in the world. People who think that they know everything but unfortunately they only think about themselves. ONLY THEMSELVES.
I'm trying to be positive each day but the feeling of not being appreciated has pull me my motivation down. Down to a very, very low level. I must just remind my heart to be more sincere each day in what I'm doing. Nursing is my heart and teaching is my soul. I shouldn't be asking for any token for doing what I love to do but it will feel even greater if it is acknowledge and appreciated.
I'm also trying very hard to be a better person each day. So, to all my friends and to all the people who read this, THANK YOU for all your support. I really appreciate it.
Thursday 30 June 2011
When we get older .....
When we get older ......... we should be wiser.
Considering the knowledge and the experience that a person went through, they should be wiser .... right? SHOULD but it's not a must. Most people gain knowledge and learn as the day goes but for some, they don't learn anything. It's like their brain shrunk with no brain cells any more. They act as if they are the greatest, knows everything but in reality.....they are EMPTY.
When we get older ......... we should listen more.
Yes, listen more. Logically, when we get older, our senses will be less sensitive. Our hearing might be compromised at some point. So, we should be focusing on what we are listening rather than thinking that you know what people are saying when you can't even listen. Please listen to what people want to say. It might be useful to us and don't jump into conclusion without listening the whole story because it will be ANNOYING.
When we get older ......... we should talk less.
Talk less of unnecessary issues. Talk more on the good things. Talk something that will be useful for the younger generation. Maybe you were there during some historical moment which will be worth to share or maybe you had some experience that can be a good lesson to them. So, tell them the good stories. Please don't talk about other people weaknesses or gossiping about other people. If you don't have anything good to say ...... DON'T SAY ANYTHING.
When we get older ......... we should be advising not nagging.
Nag, nag and nag. People say that you should have achieved a lot of things when you reach at certain age and when you achieved your objective, you'll be more contented. Supposedly, if you're contented, you'll have more advice to give to the younger generation. Help them to go through this life. Guide them the right way. Don't scold them unnecessarily and continues nagging them when they are not doing it right. PLEASE DO NOT NAG.
When we get older, we should have more knowledge, more experience, more sweet memories to share and life should be fuller and happier. We should EARN MORE RESPECT not DISRESPECT. We should be LOVE not HATE.
Dear friends. This is purely from my thoughts and I'm just reminding myself about getting older. Hopefully, it will help to remind others too.
Considering the knowledge and the experience that a person went through, they should be wiser .... right? SHOULD but it's not a must. Most people gain knowledge and learn as the day goes but for some, they don't learn anything. It's like their brain shrunk with no brain cells any more. They act as if they are the greatest, knows everything but in reality.....they are EMPTY.
When we get older ......... we should listen more.
Yes, listen more. Logically, when we get older, our senses will be less sensitive. Our hearing might be compromised at some point. So, we should be focusing on what we are listening rather than thinking that you know what people are saying when you can't even listen. Please listen to what people want to say. It might be useful to us and don't jump into conclusion without listening the whole story because it will be ANNOYING.
When we get older ......... we should talk less.
Talk less of unnecessary issues. Talk more on the good things. Talk something that will be useful for the younger generation. Maybe you were there during some historical moment which will be worth to share or maybe you had some experience that can be a good lesson to them. So, tell them the good stories. Please don't talk about other people weaknesses or gossiping about other people. If you don't have anything good to say ...... DON'T SAY ANYTHING.
When we get older ......... we should be advising not nagging.
Nag, nag and nag. People say that you should have achieved a lot of things when you reach at certain age and when you achieved your objective, you'll be more contented. Supposedly, if you're contented, you'll have more advice to give to the younger generation. Help them to go through this life. Guide them the right way. Don't scold them unnecessarily and continues nagging them when they are not doing it right. PLEASE DO NOT NAG.
When we get older, we should have more knowledge, more experience, more sweet memories to share and life should be fuller and happier. We should EARN MORE RESPECT not DISRESPECT. We should be LOVE not HATE.
Dear friends. This is purely from my thoughts and I'm just reminding myself about getting older. Hopefully, it will help to remind others too.
Wednesday 29 June 2011
Judging the book by its cover
Actually, the actual quote will be 'Don't judge the book by its cover' but I just feel that it's more interesting to discuss the other way round because that is what we usually do. Maybe not everybody but ...... most of us .....and that includes me.
Yesterday, one of my senior colleague approached me and told me that he had underestimated me. Hhmnn ..... underestimating me ha....? He said that I don't look like who I really am. Hhmn .......interesting. I told him that it's totally okay with me because he doesn't really know me personally. He was judging me by my physical appearance and he admit it. So,it's okay with me.
Honestly, how many people doesn't judge a person from the looks or a book by its' cover? How many? I believe ..... not many. It's natural process of life. The eyes always wanted to see something beautiful and attractive. How many times you had seen the guys turning head twice for a pretty and sexy girls? They do that ... always. Ladies ...... how many times, you are lured to buy something that you don't really need just because it's beautiful? Me? Lot of time. It's just to say that we do judge something by how it looks.
So, is it wrong to judge something by it's cover? If it is wrong, why do we emphasize of giving a good first impression? For example, we will dress smartly for an interview to give a good first impression. Doesn't that mean that we are actually encouraging people to give a quick judgement from how we look? Haargh ...... it's really confusing.
In my career as a nurse, judging from how people look like is equally important as how they feel in making the correct nursing diagnosis.It's called assessment. This is part of nursing process. The good thing of the nursing process is, it doesn't ended with just an assessment. It will be followed by diagnosing the problem, planning the action, intervene and re-evaluate. Our life is just the same.
So, from my view, there's nothing wrong with judging someone by her looks or judging a book by it's cover but it must not just stop at that point only. If you're judging a person, then you have to get to know him/her more to justify the initial thoughts that you have about him/her. Then, re-evaluate and only then, get your final impression.
We are given the eyes to see, the ears to listen and the brain to think. What you see .... will go to the brain, what you hear .... will go to the brain. Think properly before you make the judgement. We are given all the senses. So, use it wisely.
Yesterday, one of my senior colleague approached me and told me that he had underestimated me. Hhmnn ..... underestimating me ha....? He said that I don't look like who I really am. Hhmn .......interesting. I told him that it's totally okay with me because he doesn't really know me personally. He was judging me by my physical appearance and he admit it. So,it's okay with me.
Honestly, how many people doesn't judge a person from the looks or a book by its' cover? How many? I believe ..... not many. It's natural process of life. The eyes always wanted to see something beautiful and attractive. How many times you had seen the guys turning head twice for a pretty and sexy girls? They do that ... always. Ladies ...... how many times, you are lured to buy something that you don't really need just because it's beautiful? Me? Lot of time. It's just to say that we do judge something by how it looks.
So, is it wrong to judge something by it's cover? If it is wrong, why do we emphasize of giving a good first impression? For example, we will dress smartly for an interview to give a good first impression. Doesn't that mean that we are actually encouraging people to give a quick judgement from how we look? Haargh ...... it's really confusing.
In my career as a nurse, judging from how people look like is equally important as how they feel in making the correct nursing diagnosis.It's called assessment. This is part of nursing process. The good thing of the nursing process is, it doesn't ended with just an assessment. It will be followed by diagnosing the problem, planning the action, intervene and re-evaluate. Our life is just the same.
So, from my view, there's nothing wrong with judging someone by her looks or judging a book by it's cover but it must not just stop at that point only. If you're judging a person, then you have to get to know him/her more to justify the initial thoughts that you have about him/her. Then, re-evaluate and only then, get your final impression.
We are given the eyes to see, the ears to listen and the brain to think. What you see .... will go to the brain, what you hear .... will go to the brain. Think properly before you make the judgement. We are given all the senses. So, use it wisely.
Tuesday 28 June 2011
You'll never know if you don't try
Today, I actually aggressively persuade someone to read my blog ( forcing in a nice way). Thinking about it .......it's kind of embarrassing. I don't really know why I did that but maybe because I desperately want someone to confirm whether I can really write or not. I really, really need someone to say ' Anis ..... you got a talent' and then the person whom I persuaded said ' Anis .... your writing is quite good'. Wow!
Actually, few of my friends have also gave good comments on my writing. Maybe I just need a reconfirmation before I sign up with a writing class. Anyway, this is not the first time that I get the comment with my writing. According to my lecturer when I was doing my bachelor degree ....... ' Anis ...... your answers are too long, too much of unnecessary elaboration . You must make it short and concise'. My answer was always 'Okay' and it did becomes a little shorter. Just a few sentence shorter. What can I do? I love to elaborates my words. But she did says that my writing was good for different kind of writing, not for answering exam question.
The thing is, maybe people that close to you or your friend or anybody can identify your talent or your skill but the most important is for us to identify it ourself as well. We need to know that we do have the talent that the people say. If we don't realised that, we will never start to try.... right?
Secondly, we need to try to make it happen. The first person who identify my writing skill was my Bahasa Malaysia teacher in Form four. I was sixteen then, That was over 20 years ago but I never tried. So, it never happen. Hhmnn .......
Dear friends, I believe every each of us is created with lot of skills and talents.We just need to identify the one perfect for us. The skill or talent that makes us happy when we do it. The one that makes us comfortable with ourself. The one that make us feel nice about ourself.
Once we identify it, we should try to make it happen. We will never know where it's going to bring us to. Maybe you'll be someone with great success. Maybe, it doesn't bring you anywhere. We don't really know what's going to happen ..... do we?
Doesn't matter how many skills you have or how many talents you have or how many people tell you that you are good with something, the most important thing to know is that you'll never know if you don't try.
Actually, few of my friends have also gave good comments on my writing. Maybe I just need a reconfirmation before I sign up with a writing class. Anyway, this is not the first time that I get the comment with my writing. According to my lecturer when I was doing my bachelor degree ....... ' Anis ...... your answers are too long, too much of unnecessary elaboration . You must make it short and concise'. My answer was always 'Okay' and it did becomes a little shorter. Just a few sentence shorter. What can I do? I love to elaborates my words. But she did says that my writing was good for different kind of writing, not for answering exam question.
The thing is, maybe people that close to you or your friend or anybody can identify your talent or your skill but the most important is for us to identify it ourself as well. We need to know that we do have the talent that the people say. If we don't realised that, we will never start to try.... right?
Secondly, we need to try to make it happen. The first person who identify my writing skill was my Bahasa Malaysia teacher in Form four. I was sixteen then, That was over 20 years ago but I never tried. So, it never happen. Hhmnn .......
Dear friends, I believe every each of us is created with lot of skills and talents.We just need to identify the one perfect for us. The skill or talent that makes us happy when we do it. The one that makes us comfortable with ourself. The one that make us feel nice about ourself.
Once we identify it, we should try to make it happen. We will never know where it's going to bring us to. Maybe you'll be someone with great success. Maybe, it doesn't bring you anywhere. We don't really know what's going to happen ..... do we?
Doesn't matter how many skills you have or how many talents you have or how many people tell you that you are good with something, the most important thing to know is that you'll never know if you don't try.
Wednesday 22 June 2011
Life is too short
Today, one of my cats died. Her name was Meimey and she was only eight months old. She was like a baby to me and as usual, I cried. I love cats but it's very hurting when they died. It really hurts.
Maybe for some people, it's ridiculous to cry for a cat but I don't really mind what people think about that because we a just different people. We are individual and we have our own opinion.
For a few moment, I sit and think about my dead cat. Thinking about the unconditional love that she gave to me for the last few months and now ..... there's no more. It also remind me on how short our life is. Today we are laughing and enjoying life and tomorrow ........
It also remind me on how much time we spend with our love ones. Our family, our children, our friends and lot of other people around us. Sometimes, we don't even realise that we are surrounded with many people around us because they are always around us. Sometimes, we forget to say thank you for the help given to us ........ especially the tiny little help from the usual people that has always been very supporting.
Life is a journey but we don't know when it will end. Life is too short ...... sometimes, we don't realise that we have come to the end. The most important thing is, however you want to spend your life ..... spend it wisely.
Life is just too short.
Maybe for some people, it's ridiculous to cry for a cat but I don't really mind what people think about that because we a just different people. We are individual and we have our own opinion.
For a few moment, I sit and think about my dead cat. Thinking about the unconditional love that she gave to me for the last few months and now ..... there's no more. It also remind me on how short our life is. Today we are laughing and enjoying life and tomorrow ........
It also remind me on how much time we spend with our love ones. Our family, our children, our friends and lot of other people around us. Sometimes, we don't even realise that we are surrounded with many people around us because they are always around us. Sometimes, we forget to say thank you for the help given to us ........ especially the tiny little help from the usual people that has always been very supporting.
Life is a journey but we don't know when it will end. Life is too short ...... sometimes, we don't realise that we have come to the end. The most important thing is, however you want to spend your life ..... spend it wisely.
Life is just too short.
Saturday 18 June 2011
Destiny
Do you believe in destiny? I do.
I believe, most people do believe in destiny. So, if we believe in destiny it means we believe that there are things which are meant for us or events meant to happen to us. Because it's our destiny, doesn't matter what you do or how you do it, the end results will just be like how it's determined for us. IT"S DESTINY.
If I think like how my daughter does (she's 14), we don't have to work hard or sacrifice time, money, effort and lot of other things just to achieve the objective that we have tabulate for the rest of our life. Why work too hard when we believe something will still happen even when you're trying hard to avoid it. IT'S DESTINY but that is how my adolescent daughter think at the moment.
Most of us believe in destiny but do we know what's going to happen to us? Do we know what is predetermined for us? Should we just wait for it to happen or can we change our destiny? There are thousands of questions that we can think of but do we really know?
My personal view, only Allah knows. Only HE knows what is going to happen to us in future but I'm happy with that. I want good things to happen to me. I'm dreaming of having a beautiful future but I don't know whether I'm going to achieve all that. Sometimes, I strongly feels that everything will be good but some other time, it just feels as if it's too much to achieve. I just have the idea of my future and I'm working hard for it and never forget to pray for it to happen.
You know what? I don't mind at all of not knowing what is there for me. IT'S DESTINY. I don't mind at all. The not knowing moves me forward everyday. It gives me the motivation to work harder for something, to be positive all the time AND to be more optimistic. I love this quote by Richard Hovey - ' I do not know beneath what sky nor on what seas shall thy fate; I only know it shall be high, I only know it shall be great'. Just think positive of the future and work for it.
Don't just think of what is there for us but also think of how to get there.Think of the process of getting to what we want, where we want to be or achieving what we have set for. Life is not just about the outcome but more on the process of getting the outcome . Just like Ursula K. Le Guin - ' It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matter in the end.
Dear friends, let us create our beautiful journey towards our DESTINY. What ever it's there for us, always pray it's a good one and Insyaallah (with Allah wills), our life will be colourful and beautiful.
I believe, most people do believe in destiny. So, if we believe in destiny it means we believe that there are things which are meant for us or events meant to happen to us. Because it's our destiny, doesn't matter what you do or how you do it, the end results will just be like how it's determined for us. IT"S DESTINY.
If I think like how my daughter does (she's 14), we don't have to work hard or sacrifice time, money, effort and lot of other things just to achieve the objective that we have tabulate for the rest of our life. Why work too hard when we believe something will still happen even when you're trying hard to avoid it. IT'S DESTINY but that is how my adolescent daughter think at the moment.
Most of us believe in destiny but do we know what's going to happen to us? Do we know what is predetermined for us? Should we just wait for it to happen or can we change our destiny? There are thousands of questions that we can think of but do we really know?
My personal view, only Allah knows. Only HE knows what is going to happen to us in future but I'm happy with that. I want good things to happen to me. I'm dreaming of having a beautiful future but I don't know whether I'm going to achieve all that. Sometimes, I strongly feels that everything will be good but some other time, it just feels as if it's too much to achieve. I just have the idea of my future and I'm working hard for it and never forget to pray for it to happen.
You know what? I don't mind at all of not knowing what is there for me. IT'S DESTINY. I don't mind at all. The not knowing moves me forward everyday. It gives me the motivation to work harder for something, to be positive all the time AND to be more optimistic. I love this quote by Richard Hovey - ' I do not know beneath what sky nor on what seas shall thy fate; I only know it shall be high, I only know it shall be great'. Just think positive of the future and work for it.
Don't just think of what is there for us but also think of how to get there.Think of the process of getting to what we want, where we want to be or achieving what we have set for. Life is not just about the outcome but more on the process of getting the outcome . Just like Ursula K. Le Guin - ' It is good to have an end to journey towards; but it is the journey that matter in the end.
Dear friends, let us create our beautiful journey towards our DESTINY. What ever it's there for us, always pray it's a good one and Insyaallah (with Allah wills), our life will be colourful and beautiful.
Monday 13 June 2011
Sensitivity
I am naturally a sensitive person. I cry everytime when my cats died. I cry for sad stories, romantic stories and for lot of other stories. Hhmn..... maybe I'm just being too sensitive but I believe it's help me to be sensitive and caring towards the patient I cared for and also towards my profession.
My profession? I am a nurse.
People say that as we grow older, we become more sensitive. Easily touched by any news, more sympathetic, more empathetic and supposedly more sensitive toward others feeling. How true is the saying? Can't really agree with it.
Why not? I don't know. I don't think it's true nowadays. What people said those days doesn't seem to be applicable any more. I feel that people are less sensitive nowadays. The higher the position, the less sensitive they become. The more exposure they have, the less sensitive they become. The more people they know, the less sensitive they become. Doesn't matter how old they are, they become more and more INSENSITIVE.
How do people becomes insensitive? I'm also wondering. Especially when they were a nurse themselves. They are suppose to be the caring people with a sensitive heart. That is how they manage to feel or to understand other peoples feeling but they simply lost their skill to sympathize and empathize. They tend to preach more things that they don't do rather the things that they suppose to do. They tend to start the sentence by " I understand ........" but never want to understand anything or " I know ........" but doesn't know a drop of your problem. They always compare who they are now with people who's still trying to be at where they are now. They can't really see how other people struggle to achieve something. They only see themselves as the achievers and others as the failures.
Some of this is the people around you. You know them and feel that they are not being sensitive to your feelings or to your need. They just order or instruct you to do things. You feel hurt and angry but you'll just swallow it because you know, to change them is just like moving a mountain. On top of that, they don't feel what you feel.
Everyday, I thank Allah for who I am. Pray to be a better person everyday. Pray to have this sensitive heart as long a I live. Thank you to all my friends for being around and for reminding me for who I am. To all, please be sensitive to others. Think of what you are going to say to your friends, colleague, families and others.
Please, please and please prevent yourself from becoming INSENSITIVE.
My profession? I am a nurse.
People say that as we grow older, we become more sensitive. Easily touched by any news, more sympathetic, more empathetic and supposedly more sensitive toward others feeling. How true is the saying? Can't really agree with it.
Why not? I don't know. I don't think it's true nowadays. What people said those days doesn't seem to be applicable any more. I feel that people are less sensitive nowadays. The higher the position, the less sensitive they become. The more exposure they have, the less sensitive they become. The more people they know, the less sensitive they become. Doesn't matter how old they are, they become more and more INSENSITIVE.
How do people becomes insensitive? I'm also wondering. Especially when they were a nurse themselves. They are suppose to be the caring people with a sensitive heart. That is how they manage to feel or to understand other peoples feeling but they simply lost their skill to sympathize and empathize. They tend to preach more things that they don't do rather the things that they suppose to do. They tend to start the sentence by " I understand ........" but never want to understand anything or " I know ........" but doesn't know a drop of your problem. They always compare who they are now with people who's still trying to be at where they are now. They can't really see how other people struggle to achieve something. They only see themselves as the achievers and others as the failures.
Some of this is the people around you. You know them and feel that they are not being sensitive to your feelings or to your need. They just order or instruct you to do things. You feel hurt and angry but you'll just swallow it because you know, to change them is just like moving a mountain. On top of that, they don't feel what you feel.
Everyday, I thank Allah for who I am. Pray to be a better person everyday. Pray to have this sensitive heart as long a I live. Thank you to all my friends for being around and for reminding me for who I am. To all, please be sensitive to others. Think of what you are going to say to your friends, colleague, families and others.
Please, please and please prevent yourself from becoming INSENSITIVE.
Wednesday 8 June 2011
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
"You are a very beautiful women". A compliment which I should be thanking but instead ..... I said " Thank you, but I'm not that beautiful". The guy said " I really mean that and you can't argue what I said because the beauty is in the eye of the beholder". Oh .... isn't that sweet?
Beauty is a gift. It's not everyday people will tell you that you're beautiful. Especially when you passed your prime age, not many people can see your beauty any more. It's okay to be beautiful. It's okay to feel beautiful. We should be grateful for what we have and when other people find us beautiful, we should be thanking not denying. It'll sound rude when we deny somebody's opinion, right? So, start showing that we appreciate other people opinion.
I didn't write this because I feel very beautiful. I am very grateful for how I look like but I'm hoping that every time somebody said I'm beautiful, he or she will see the more than just the physical beauty. I'm just reminding myself to always appreciate other people opinion, and to thank for the good words people said about you. But the most important thing is to remember to be beautiful not just from the outside but also from the inside ... from your heart.
This saying first appeared in the 3rd century BC in Greek and Shakespeare expressed a similar sentiment in Love's Labours Lost, 1588:
So ......, why is it so hard to just accept the compliment? Why do I have to deny other people appreciation? But this is how most Malaysian women react to a compliment especially when it has to do with beauty. It's just an act of being polite. We were taught that way .... at least my mom did. Guys....., don't feel offended okay.Good Lord Boyet, my beauty, though but mean,
Needs not the painted flourish of your praise:
Beauty is bought by judgement of the eye,
Not utter'd by base sale of chapmen's tongues
Beauty is a gift. It's not everyday people will tell you that you're beautiful. Especially when you passed your prime age, not many people can see your beauty any more. It's okay to be beautiful. It's okay to feel beautiful. We should be grateful for what we have and when other people find us beautiful, we should be thanking not denying. It'll sound rude when we deny somebody's opinion, right? So, start showing that we appreciate other people opinion.
I didn't write this because I feel very beautiful. I am very grateful for how I look like but I'm hoping that every time somebody said I'm beautiful, he or she will see the more than just the physical beauty. I'm just reminding myself to always appreciate other people opinion, and to thank for the good words people said about you. But the most important thing is to remember to be beautiful not just from the outside but also from the inside ... from your heart.
Monday 6 June 2011
Energy and Emotion
"All women are just the same. They just on and off their emotion without warning" Statement thrown to me after being quiet for few days. Okay, GUILTY as charged. Okay, okay. Don't say anything more.
Not every women are the same. Maybe most women but not all the women. Of course we have lots of emotion. God blessed us with the emotion.There are too many theories about emotion but according to the neurobiological theories, emotion is a pleasant or unpleasant mental state organized in the limbic system of the mammalian brain. That is mainly what we feel every second of our life .... pleasant and unpleasant. So, it's normal to have emotions. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Ladies .... please don't feel guilty just because you are showing your emotion. We are women, we are allowed to do so. It's just that, we should know how to control it and not to misuse the emotion. Guys ..... please...!! Please understand. We are the delicate species, need to be understood, need to be love, need to be spoil. Believe me .... you wouldn't like a women without emotion and take it positively as a challenge. Good things doesn't come cheap .. you know.
But what does it have to do with energy? Of course .. it has to everything with energy. Don't you realised that if you feel sad, you'll feel as if you don't have energy to do anything and if you're happy, you'll feel so energetic. Personally, when I'm angry, I'll have too much of energy. To reduce the extra energy, usually cleaning the house or the office will do the tricks. So, every little detail of emotion gives a different level of energy. Hhmnn ....... does that help to understand how women has lots of different energy everyday, every second.
This is just my personal opinion of what I feel about emotion and energy. You might agree or disagree. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just from personal experience and to share with people who wants to read it.
Not every women are the same. Maybe most women but not all the women. Of course we have lots of emotion. God blessed us with the emotion.There are too many theories about emotion but according to the neurobiological theories, emotion is a pleasant or unpleasant mental state organized in the limbic system of the mammalian brain. That is mainly what we feel every second of our life .... pleasant and unpleasant. So, it's normal to have emotions. There's absolutely nothing wrong with it.
Ladies .... please don't feel guilty just because you are showing your emotion. We are women, we are allowed to do so. It's just that, we should know how to control it and not to misuse the emotion. Guys ..... please...!! Please understand. We are the delicate species, need to be understood, need to be love, need to be spoil. Believe me .... you wouldn't like a women without emotion and take it positively as a challenge. Good things doesn't come cheap .. you know.
But what does it have to do with energy? Of course .. it has to everything with energy. Don't you realised that if you feel sad, you'll feel as if you don't have energy to do anything and if you're happy, you'll feel so energetic. Personally, when I'm angry, I'll have too much of energy. To reduce the extra energy, usually cleaning the house or the office will do the tricks. So, every little detail of emotion gives a different level of energy. Hhmnn ....... does that help to understand how women has lots of different energy everyday, every second.
This is just my personal opinion of what I feel about emotion and energy. You might agree or disagree. There's nothing wrong with that. It's just from personal experience and to share with people who wants to read it.
Newspaper cut
FB group counters ‘sexist’ wives club
Sunday June 5, 2011
PETALING JAYA: Facebook users have started a group called “We Do Not Want Sexist Nonsense From Global Ikhwan Sdn Bhd” after reading about the Obedient Wives Club (OWC) launched by the organisation.
Someone called Matthew Tard Ong wrote that he created the group as he believed both partners played a role in keeping a marriage healthy.
As of 9.30pm yesterday, 133 people had joined the group.
The OWC, or Kelab Taat Suami, was launched yesterday. Its members strived to delight their husbands in almost every way.
OWC vice-president Dr Rohaya Mohamad said this included keeping husbands sexually satisfied so they would not turn to prostitutes or keep mistresses.
A Muslim husband, who only wanted to be known by his first name Zul, said he did not agree with the message sent out by the club.
“Yes, sex is important, but you can’t say that it will help curb social ills in such a sweeping manner.
“There are other factors involved,” said the 36-year-old technician.
He said men tended to stray for psychological reasons that he himself did not fully understand.
Men, he said, could cheat on their wives despite having a happy marriage.
Sociologist and social activist Rohanna Ariffin suggested that OWC members read up on statistics by women’s rights groups and the police to find out the factors that caused domestic violence.
“Women shouldn’t be women’s worst enemy. Husbands have to take responsibility for their own behaviour,” said Rohanna who is also a Parti Rakyat Malaysia central committee member.
She stressed that it was wrong for women to take all the blame for men’s weaknesses.
However, Selayang Umno deputy chief Datuk Nasir Ibrahim said the club was extraordinary and unique.
He said Selayang Umno fully supported the club as most problems had their roots at home.
“There may be negative voices decrying this as male chauvinism but I don’t see it that way. If the family institution is strong with good marital relations, it can help counter social ills,” he said at the launch of the club yesterday.
Sunday 5 June 2011
Mr. Read, read and read
He's coming again? Really? That fast? Oh! No! It's already three months from his last visit.
Mr. Read, read and read is coming again. Oh! Don't get me wrong. I like him coming back again and again but he gave me palpitation. I think, I hate him but at the same time I like him. Can you really hate and like a person at the same time?? Argh!!! Whatever it is, I must focus .... an intensive focus.
Ha..ha..ha..Actually, I'm just talking about my lecturer and my thesis supervisor. He's coming to Malaysia from the U.K next week. I'm having palpitation now because ....... I haven't finish the things that he told me to do. I'll definitely get the scolding next week and most probably, I deserve it.
It's not easy to be a part-time adult student. Not easy at all but it's not impossible. Especially for those with schooling children. You must just plan every little thing that you do and every possible thing that can happen during the 2 - 4 years of the study. Plan the time that will spend with your family. Plan your time that you'll spend in the office and work. Plan the time that you need for your assignment and please plan your time to read, read and read because you'll need that in every steps of your study. REMEMBER !!! It's not easy but it is POSSIBLE.
So, Mr. Read, read and read. I'm really looking forward to see you. Doesn't matter how much palpitation you gave me, it's still worth to meet you because you're my Mr. Read, read and read.
Mr. Read, read and read is coming again. Oh! Don't get me wrong. I like him coming back again and again but he gave me palpitation. I think, I hate him but at the same time I like him. Can you really hate and like a person at the same time?? Argh!!! Whatever it is, I must focus .... an intensive focus.
Ha..ha..ha..Actually, I'm just talking about my lecturer and my thesis supervisor. He's coming to Malaysia from the U.K next week. I'm having palpitation now because ....... I haven't finish the things that he told me to do. I'll definitely get the scolding next week and most probably, I deserve it.
It's not easy to be a part-time adult student. Not easy at all but it's not impossible. Especially for those with schooling children. You must just plan every little thing that you do and every possible thing that can happen during the 2 - 4 years of the study. Plan the time that will spend with your family. Plan your time that you'll spend in the office and work. Plan the time that you need for your assignment and please plan your time to read, read and read because you'll need that in every steps of your study. REMEMBER !!! It's not easy but it is POSSIBLE.
So, Mr. Read, read and read. I'm really looking forward to see you. Doesn't matter how much palpitation you gave me, it's still worth to meet you because you're my Mr. Read, read and read.
Friday 3 June 2011
Charisma
I visited a blog today which make me decide to have my own blog. So, I'm officially a COPY CAT. Am I? I thought of having a better blog, so I asked my sister to create a blog for me. So, here I am.
Someone told me that having a blog is about having a charisma. You need to have a CHARISMA to have a followers. If you have it, then you are a good leader. Oh yeah ..... tell me about that. I just finished with my leadership assignment which just manage to pass. Does that mean that I'm not a good leader? Does that mean I don't have the charisma to be a leader.
CHARISMA ... CHARISMA .... I need the charisma.
Someone told me that having a blog is about having a charisma. You need to have a CHARISMA to have a followers. If you have it, then you are a good leader. Oh yeah ..... tell me about that. I just finished with my leadership assignment which just manage to pass. Does that mean that I'm not a good leader? Does that mean I don't have the charisma to be a leader.
CHARISMA ... CHARISMA .... I need the charisma.
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