Think before the action

Ideally, we must always think before we take any action against anything but sometimes our mind can act irrationally which we don't really think about what we do and especially of what we say. Most of the time it happened when we let our anger to overtake our emotion. We will just say what we want (at that time ... of course) or do some destructive action like throwing cups and plates. (my dad used to do that) but later ........ we regret.

Everyday, I'm trying very hard not to hurt people with my words or with my actions. Always trying to remind myself not to say something that I will regret later. It seems very hard to do  ........ but it's possible. We must try to control our super ego not to take over our id and ego. I know, ..........  it's very hard but this is the way of life that we should try to change, so that we will have the harmony in life.

Last week, one my friend tried to help the students with their problem in organizing smaller groups within them. Yeah ..... sometimes they like you to be in their critical discussion. So,this friend of mine happily help them to organize the groups and the group leader and everything. The students were happy with the decisions and their new groups but somebody else wasn't happy. The lecturer in-charge of the students was not happy at all. He was angry that my friend had helped the students because he said that he already gave an instruction to the students and it is totally different with what my friend did and continue mumbling ......... bla..bla..bla...

Come on ...... people already helped you to solve a problem. You should be saying thank you but instead ..... you scold the person? Why can't he think and rationalise the whole thing before he scolded my friend? Maybe, my friend has trigger his super ego and it increased too much and suppressed the id and ego. Anyway, my friend just apologise helping the students without his prior knowledge and she said that she will inform the students about it to correct the situation.

Hhmmnnn ....... what you know ...... he scolded the students too. So, I'm just wondering, when did he think about the whole thing and come to a decision that the students must be scolded. Most probably, he didn't think at all. It was quite a sad situation  because now everybody looks so miserable just because of one person who doesn't want to think before he took his actions. He looks the worst. Maybe he feel guilty but to apologise ......... I haven't seen the sign yet.

Anyway, the lesson to learn is ......... think before you do or say anything. We have millions of neurons (brain cells) that can be use for thinking and still left with million unuse. Do not do something that will make other people sad and miserable. Do not do things that will make ourselves uncomfortable and miserable. Think about other peoples' feeling. Improve the communication skills. Control your emotion and your super ego .................... and think before you do the action.