My dear friends,
When you are a women, most people assume that you can teach. Especially when you are a mother. What more when you are a nurse. Yes, off course you can teach because one the nurses role is to be a teacher. REALLY??? Do you REALLY BELIEVE that? Hhmnnn ......
Please don't get me wrong. I am nurse myself. I was a nurse educator. I've been in nursing for over 20 years now. Yes, some nurses give advice, some do teach and they do teach well but some others, they can't teach. They just can't transmit the knowledge to other people. They just don't have the skill and not everybody is born with the teaching skill. Doesn't matter whether you are a women or men. I believe teachers will definitely agree with me on this.
Why am I bringing this matter up? I will tell you why.
When I was a newly graduate nurse, I had a problem in learning my new role in the ward. There were many things thatI had to learn or search by my own. You know...... the old school way ...... the 'find out youself or you'll never learn' style. If you ask, you'll get scolded but if you don't ask, you will still get scolded and you may not even get the answer. But because you are also from the old school, you don't really mind. Most probably, that is the only way they know how to teach or they just don't know how to teach. Since then, I determine to learn the proper method of theaching so that I can help others by teaching them effectively and ....... guess what? I went for a teaching methodology class.
Now, I'm back to the clinical area. An area that is full with new things to learn. An area where you'll always see new faces coming to join the nursing team. Yes, this is an area where the newly graduated nurses will come in to get their first real nursing experience. So, supposingly the organisation should have prepare this area with someone who can really teach them how to survive in this new working environment. I believe that they still assume that everybody or anybody can teach. They assign nurses who are experienced but not trained to teach. They tag the new staff with another staff. The new will get all the scolding whenever they make any mistakes. So, what did we learn? .......... nothing.
The ART of TEACHING need to be learn. There are organisation that offer courses for this. For those who always need to teach the new nurses ............. please get some help with your teaching skills. SCOLDING is not a teaching. YELLING is not teaching. SARCASM is not teaching. We are in the 21st century ..... everything is a click away. Click and upgrade yourself ....... then you can help others better.
Monday 14 July 2014
Thursday 6 March 2014
Smart or Right Decision
Dear friends,
Making decision is not always easy. Sometimes, when you have all the facts and you'll come into a conclusion and you decide. Sometimes, you don't have any fact but still, you have to conclude and decide. The thing is, whatever decision you make, you'll try to make the smartest, the best and the most right decision. But in real life, a 100% perfect decision is just impossible. Whatever decision you make, you'll always take some percentage of risk.
Why am I grumbling about making decision? It's just to answer some queries about why I quit my job. A decision that seems unwisely taken. (at least to people who doesn't know me)
Deciding to leave my job was not an easy decision but thanks to my boss (ex-boss now), she has make it easier for me. The thought of leaving ..... was there for quite sometimes. Why? Because the job is killing me bits by bits (metaphorically .....) So, why did I accept the job in the first place? Hhmnn .....let me think. Oh, yes! Initially, I was offered with a post that I love to do .....teaching the nursing students. I love to teach and I love nursing. Gradually, I was 'upgraded' to the position that you are not so fond off, then to a position that I don't like (...but still doing it) and later to something that I don't feel right to do.( .....that is from my point of view......and makes me feel guilty)
When you do something you love, everything seems very clear and bright but when you do something that you don't like, all the things seems to be shadowed by a dark cloud. The worst thing is, when you do something that is against your values and ethics belief, you feel like you are chased by your own guilt all the time. I just can't live with that kind of feelings, so I make up my mind, take any possible risk .........quit my job.
So, that is how I came to my conclusion and why I make the decision. Maybe, it is not my smartest decision ever but somehow it feels the most right decision I ever make for years. Sometimes, you just can't include both smart and right into your decision and you just have to choose one.
I've make my decision, please pray for my best.
Making decision is not always easy. Sometimes, when you have all the facts and you'll come into a conclusion and you decide. Sometimes, you don't have any fact but still, you have to conclude and decide. The thing is, whatever decision you make, you'll try to make the smartest, the best and the most right decision. But in real life, a 100% perfect decision is just impossible. Whatever decision you make, you'll always take some percentage of risk.
Why am I grumbling about making decision? It's just to answer some queries about why I quit my job. A decision that seems unwisely taken. (at least to people who doesn't know me)
Deciding to leave my job was not an easy decision but thanks to my boss (ex-boss now), she has make it easier for me. The thought of leaving ..... was there for quite sometimes. Why? Because the job is killing me bits by bits (metaphorically .....) So, why did I accept the job in the first place? Hhmnn .....let me think. Oh, yes! Initially, I was offered with a post that I love to do .....teaching the nursing students. I love to teach and I love nursing. Gradually, I was 'upgraded' to the position that you are not so fond off, then to a position that I don't like (...but still doing it) and later to something that I don't feel right to do.( .....that is from my point of view......and makes me feel guilty)
When you do something you love, everything seems very clear and bright but when you do something that you don't like, all the things seems to be shadowed by a dark cloud. The worst thing is, when you do something that is against your values and ethics belief, you feel like you are chased by your own guilt all the time. I just can't live with that kind of feelings, so I make up my mind, take any possible risk .........quit my job.
So, that is how I came to my conclusion and why I make the decision. Maybe, it is not my smartest decision ever but somehow it feels the most right decision I ever make for years. Sometimes, you just can't include both smart and right into your decision and you just have to choose one.
I've make my decision, please pray for my best.
Soft ...... not weak
Hi friends,
It has been a while since my last writing in this blog. I haven't stop writing but I believe some of my writings are too personal to share so, I just wrote it in my special writing book. Anyway, here I am again.
I have been a jobless soul for five months now. How does it feel? Hhmnn...... sometimes it feels very nice (no jokes .... it's true), sometimes it is depressing, sometimes .... stressful and sometime it is an unexplained feeling. It is just a mix feeling.
Anyway, one of my concern friend refers me to an organisation for a post and they called me for an interview. It was very nice to have the feelings of being wanted again. I went for the interview and everything ran smoothly.
So, what's the problem? Actually, there was no problem at all. It's just that what I add into the description of myself to make sure that people will not judge me just from my physical appearance. I told the interviewer that I'm naturally a soft person. I may look soft, I am a soft spoken person, sometimes I giggle when I'm anxious but I'm NOT a WEAK person. And she said " I can't judge you only by your physical appearance in 30 minutes. I will still need to do an assessment based on your performance." Hhmn....... I like her already.
YES! You can't penalised a person just because she is a soft person. Just because she is physically soft, doesn't mean that she can't handle the position. Look at the resume, look at the achievement, give her a test or something before coming to a statement that YOU ARE TOO SOFT FOR THE POSITION. Anyway, I'm not applying to be a soldier or a policeman .
What I'm trying to say is ....please DO NOT perceive softness as a weakness. People can look physically soft but yet they are mentally and spiritually strong and vice versa. As a woman, I'll be very proud if a person perceive me a soft woman because that is just natural but never ever perceive softness as a weakness because it can be demoralising.
Goodnight my friends
It has been a while since my last writing in this blog. I haven't stop writing but I believe some of my writings are too personal to share so, I just wrote it in my special writing book. Anyway, here I am again.
I have been a jobless soul for five months now. How does it feel? Hhmnn...... sometimes it feels very nice (no jokes .... it's true), sometimes it is depressing, sometimes .... stressful and sometime it is an unexplained feeling. It is just a mix feeling.
Anyway, one of my concern friend refers me to an organisation for a post and they called me for an interview. It was very nice to have the feelings of being wanted again. I went for the interview and everything ran smoothly.
So, what's the problem? Actually, there was no problem at all. It's just that what I add into the description of myself to make sure that people will not judge me just from my physical appearance. I told the interviewer that I'm naturally a soft person. I may look soft, I am a soft spoken person, sometimes I giggle when I'm anxious but I'm NOT a WEAK person. And she said " I can't judge you only by your physical appearance in 30 minutes. I will still need to do an assessment based on your performance." Hhmn....... I like her already.
YES! You can't penalised a person just because she is a soft person. Just because she is physically soft, doesn't mean that she can't handle the position. Look at the resume, look at the achievement, give her a test or something before coming to a statement that YOU ARE TOO SOFT FOR THE POSITION. Anyway, I'm not applying to be a soldier or a policeman .
What I'm trying to say is ....please DO NOT perceive softness as a weakness. People can look physically soft but yet they are mentally and spiritually strong and vice versa. As a woman, I'll be very proud if a person perceive me a soft woman because that is just natural but never ever perceive softness as a weakness because it can be demoralising.
Goodnight my friends
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