It is always easy to say than to do. Agree?
Me? Totally agree. I don't know about you but I strongly agree on that. Most people are very good in seeking knowledge, disseminating the knowledge to others (that is what they claimed they are doing) and motivates other people to apply the knowledge into daily practice. They are very good in communicating with others. The way they described each step of the process as if they have done it a million time. You feel so motivated (at least on that day) to do it yourself. The best of all, they are also very good in identifying your weaknesses or in other word .... your MISTAKE.
Ironically, they are the people who sometimes never experience a bit of what they say. They don't event know the reality of what they are saying. All the things they presented on the screen or in the classroom or in the conference are based on the theory. The perfect theory.
The funniest part is when people start questioning the theory with your practice. They will start jumping (emotionally) and start labelling you with all the hi-fi words which actually wth a simple meaning saying that you are just being negative. Hhmnn .......
Amazingly, people want to believe this people who says they are doing it from the people who actually doing the work and on top of that the people who's actually struggle to practice the theory will be labelled as NOT PERFORMING. The thing is ...... if you ask them to show how to do it ........ they will create another theory to cover the first theory they taught without actually answering the actual question.
Bottom of the story, if you want people to look up on you and to respect you, you must practice what you preach. As in Malay, it says 'CAKAP TAK SERUPA BIKIN'.(the talk is not like the doing). Don't just have theory, but refuse to practice or even worse, expecting other people to practice it but you yourself never have any intention to practice it.
Remember, it's not easy to gain peoples' respect and once you loose people respect, it's never easy to get it back. So, my dear friends, please remind each other, practice what you preach and remember to put the theory into our daily practice.
Wednesday 27 July 2011
Monday 25 July 2011
Broaden the perspective
Different people, different age, different gender and lot of other differences make us view and value in each items in our life differently ..... of course. But for us to be together and live together in harmony and happily, we must have some similarity. Some values that we agree on it. Like our belief in good and bad. Most of us share the same value on what we perceive to good or bad. Basically, most of us agree on the basic principles of life.
When we grow older, the more we learn and understand about ourself, our life and the life around us.We adjust and we adapt to new people, new surrounding, new job, new weather and lot of other new things along the way. We learn from our mistakes and achievements. I mean ..... we should learn something right ...??
Now, it is the 21st century. Computers are widely use. People communicate with other people who live half-way around the world easily ...... as if we are talking to our next door neighbour. Most of us has mobile phone. Some of us ...... have more than one. Some people, they don't even have to go out from the house to earn money, because they are working from home. The way of living is changing and some of it is really, really changed.
Okay, whether you realised it or not ....... the world and the way of living on this world is changed and still changing. Doesn't matter whether you like it or not. It is beyond our control. What can we do? We must adapt to the changes. Try to make the best from the changes. Try to live in this world but at the same time maintaining the good values of life.
We have to live in the present and learn from the past. Please....... please...... and please! Move on! Please do not practise ALL the things you used to do in this present world. Ya Allah! Please Bless me. Amin. I am so tired living around people who is still living in their life 20 years ago or 30 years ago or even older than that. I'm not saying that I'm young. This is not about old or young but it 's about adapting ourself into the present with a broader perspective.
Honestly, I truly, truly enjoyed the way I lived in 20 years ago. There's absolutely nothing wrong about it but we cannot compare the past and the present.Do not start your conversation with 'those days ........ 'especially when you are talking to the younger generation. Of course it's different because we are now at the present. Do not continuously tell this younger generation on how hard your life was. Most of them ..... cannot appreciate that because the did not experience it. Do not tell about how things being done in your time because they never seen the way it's being done before. Do not tell them that they are wrong when you don't know the right way. In summary, they are just different.
Yes, the new generations are different but it doesn't mean that we cannot instil the good value into them. It doesn't mean that they cannot have the same basic principle of life. They have to know all the good things and to continue with the good value of life. It's just that we have to adapt to their way of learning, communicating and how the see things around them. So, it's up to us to be more adaptive and creative in instilling the good values into them.
The most important thing is, we must change our perspective. We must learn to see things in a wider context. Start thinking with a broader mind. Move away from 'those days .......' Lead the young with being together teaching and learning with them.
When we grow older, the more we learn and understand about ourself, our life and the life around us.We adjust and we adapt to new people, new surrounding, new job, new weather and lot of other new things along the way. We learn from our mistakes and achievements. I mean ..... we should learn something right ...??
Now, it is the 21st century. Computers are widely use. People communicate with other people who live half-way around the world easily ...... as if we are talking to our next door neighbour. Most of us has mobile phone. Some of us ...... have more than one. Some people, they don't even have to go out from the house to earn money, because they are working from home. The way of living is changing and some of it is really, really changed.
Okay, whether you realised it or not ....... the world and the way of living on this world is changed and still changing. Doesn't matter whether you like it or not. It is beyond our control. What can we do? We must adapt to the changes. Try to make the best from the changes. Try to live in this world but at the same time maintaining the good values of life.
We have to live in the present and learn from the past. Please....... please...... and please! Move on! Please do not practise ALL the things you used to do in this present world. Ya Allah! Please Bless me. Amin. I am so tired living around people who is still living in their life 20 years ago or 30 years ago or even older than that. I'm not saying that I'm young. This is not about old or young but it 's about adapting ourself into the present with a broader perspective.
Honestly, I truly, truly enjoyed the way I lived in 20 years ago. There's absolutely nothing wrong about it but we cannot compare the past and the present.Do not start your conversation with 'those days ........ 'especially when you are talking to the younger generation. Of course it's different because we are now at the present. Do not continuously tell this younger generation on how hard your life was. Most of them ..... cannot appreciate that because the did not experience it. Do not tell about how things being done in your time because they never seen the way it's being done before. Do not tell them that they are wrong when you don't know the right way. In summary, they are just different.
Yes, the new generations are different but it doesn't mean that we cannot instil the good value into them. It doesn't mean that they cannot have the same basic principle of life. They have to know all the good things and to continue with the good value of life. It's just that we have to adapt to their way of learning, communicating and how the see things around them. So, it's up to us to be more adaptive and creative in instilling the good values into them.
The most important thing is, we must change our perspective. We must learn to see things in a wider context. Start thinking with a broader mind. Move away from 'those days .......' Lead the young with being together teaching and learning with them.
Thursday 14 July 2011
Less is more
Yes ..... less is more but not to say that you should work less for more things to achieve. Of course you have to work more to gain more but I'm just going to give my view on what I think about less is more.
Yesterday, a friend showed me a nice photo that has won some prizes for best photo award. Yes, I do think it is a nice photo but I'm not really fond of it. Why? Because from my view, it has too much stuff , too many ideas were put into a piece a picture. Too stuffy. Just my opinion.
Personally, I like something simple but nice. I feel that my life is already complicated. I believe in making things simple. Not to complicate yourself and other people. I believe in making thing simple will also help other people to understand more on what we are trying to say or to present. We shouldn't distract other people attention from what we want to show them.
Maybe, because I am a nurse and also as an educator now. Most of the time I'm practising the principle of teaching ...... making it simple for other people to understand but I also think that this principle apply to lot of activities in our life. For example, in the arts of putting make-up ..... just see how the emphasize is on a certain part of the face and not on all over the face. If the person is trying to emphasize on the eyes, then she'll put a little extra colours on the eyes but all the other areas will have a minimal make-up and she'll look pretty. It goes the same with how we dress. You do not wear stripes, ruffles and checkers at the same time ..... do you? Or you'll look like a christmas tree.
Of course people are different. We are individual. We have different views and values. There's nothing wrong of expressing yourself in your way. It may look complicated to others but maybe not for you. It's your choice and other people have their own choice but we must remember that we live together with other people in this world. Making things simple for others .... may lead to a our simple life.
Doesn't matter how much jewellery we have, we don't have to wear it all at one time. Doesn't matter how beautiful we want to be, we don't have to put all the make-up on the face. Doesn't matter how much ideas we have, we don't have to bring it out all at a time. What I'm trying to say is just that ..... LESS IS MORE.
Yesterday, a friend showed me a nice photo that has won some prizes for best photo award. Yes, I do think it is a nice photo but I'm not really fond of it. Why? Because from my view, it has too much stuff , too many ideas were put into a piece a picture. Too stuffy. Just my opinion.
Personally, I like something simple but nice. I feel that my life is already complicated. I believe in making things simple. Not to complicate yourself and other people. I believe in making thing simple will also help other people to understand more on what we are trying to say or to present. We shouldn't distract other people attention from what we want to show them.
Maybe, because I am a nurse and also as an educator now. Most of the time I'm practising the principle of teaching ...... making it simple for other people to understand but I also think that this principle apply to lot of activities in our life. For example, in the arts of putting make-up ..... just see how the emphasize is on a certain part of the face and not on all over the face. If the person is trying to emphasize on the eyes, then she'll put a little extra colours on the eyes but all the other areas will have a minimal make-up and she'll look pretty. It goes the same with how we dress. You do not wear stripes, ruffles and checkers at the same time ..... do you? Or you'll look like a christmas tree.
Of course people are different. We are individual. We have different views and values. There's nothing wrong of expressing yourself in your way. It may look complicated to others but maybe not for you. It's your choice and other people have their own choice but we must remember that we live together with other people in this world. Making things simple for others .... may lead to a our simple life.
Doesn't matter how much jewellery we have, we don't have to wear it all at one time. Doesn't matter how beautiful we want to be, we don't have to put all the make-up on the face. Doesn't matter how much ideas we have, we don't have to bring it out all at a time. What I'm trying to say is just that ..... LESS IS MORE.
Monday 11 July 2011
Token of appreciation
Last week was quite a 'hot' week in my work place. There were some happy people, some unhappy people and very unhappy people. Sound just like a normal day right? But it was not a very normal week for me.
So, what was it about? It is about one of most influential thing in the world ...... MONEY. Yes, it's about money. Money, money, money. Last week, some of the staffs in my work place got a salary increment. ONLY SOME. It was a happy event for those who got it but for the other some ...... it caused lot of dissatisfaction.
Me? Did I get it? Huh! Unfortunately I didn't get it ........ yet. (Still hoping for it). Angry? ......... sort of. Sad? .... yes. Dissapointed? ........ of course. Dissatisfied? ....... absolutely. On top of everything ....... i feel unappreciated.
Of course it's always nice to have an extra money but that is not the true issue. It's actually an issue of appreciation. Appreciating other people hard work with a token. It may sound so materialistic but it is a method of thanking and appreciating your staff and other people who has help you. Tell me ....... how many time do you get a 'thank you' from your bosses? Maybe some of us get more from others but for some ....... not a word.
I know, it's almost impossible to please all the people around us. People are just different because they are an individual. They have different needs and different objective in life. But doesn't matter how different we are, we do have the same psychosocial needs. We need to be supported (at different level accordingly) and we need to be acknowledge and appreciated. We need all this to make us feel good about the work we are doing, being in the place we are and being around the people we work with.
As the leaders, we should be able to recognize and identify the people to be acknowledge and to be appreciated. (What am I saying...?) Basically, leaders must acknowledge and appreciate the staff hard work and the effort that they have given to the organisation. The leaders must know their staffs, their followers, their fans (if applicable ..ha..ha..). They actually must know everybody.
So, should everybody get a token of appreciation. YES! Yes they should. Then you will say that it will cost a lot. Really? How much does it cost you to say thank you to people that help you to build your career? How much does it cost you to say thank you for the people that maintain your reputation all these years? How much does it cost you to say 'hi' and how are you? How much doest it cost you to just knowing your staff? How much? How much is it?
Sometimes I feel that this world is full with ungrateful people. People who think that they achieved all the things in their life on their own. People who think that they are the smartest people in the world. People who think that they know everything but unfortunately they only think about themselves. ONLY THEMSELVES.
I'm trying to be positive each day but the feeling of not being appreciated has pull me my motivation down. Down to a very, very low level. I must just remind my heart to be more sincere each day in what I'm doing. Nursing is my heart and teaching is my soul. I shouldn't be asking for any token for doing what I love to do but it will feel even greater if it is acknowledge and appreciated.
I'm also trying very hard to be a better person each day. So, to all my friends and to all the people who read this, THANK YOU for all your support. I really appreciate it.
So, what was it about? It is about one of most influential thing in the world ...... MONEY. Yes, it's about money. Money, money, money. Last week, some of the staffs in my work place got a salary increment. ONLY SOME. It was a happy event for those who got it but for the other some ...... it caused lot of dissatisfaction.
Me? Did I get it? Huh! Unfortunately I didn't get it ........ yet. (Still hoping for it). Angry? ......... sort of. Sad? .... yes. Dissapointed? ........ of course. Dissatisfied? ....... absolutely. On top of everything ....... i feel unappreciated.
Of course it's always nice to have an extra money but that is not the true issue. It's actually an issue of appreciation. Appreciating other people hard work with a token. It may sound so materialistic but it is a method of thanking and appreciating your staff and other people who has help you. Tell me ....... how many time do you get a 'thank you' from your bosses? Maybe some of us get more from others but for some ....... not a word.
I know, it's almost impossible to please all the people around us. People are just different because they are an individual. They have different needs and different objective in life. But doesn't matter how different we are, we do have the same psychosocial needs. We need to be supported (at different level accordingly) and we need to be acknowledge and appreciated. We need all this to make us feel good about the work we are doing, being in the place we are and being around the people we work with.
As the leaders, we should be able to recognize and identify the people to be acknowledge and to be appreciated. (What am I saying...?) Basically, leaders must acknowledge and appreciate the staff hard work and the effort that they have given to the organisation. The leaders must know their staffs, their followers, their fans (if applicable ..ha..ha..). They actually must know everybody.
So, should everybody get a token of appreciation. YES! Yes they should. Then you will say that it will cost a lot. Really? How much does it cost you to say thank you to people that help you to build your career? How much does it cost you to say thank you for the people that maintain your reputation all these years? How much does it cost you to say 'hi' and how are you? How much doest it cost you to just knowing your staff? How much? How much is it?
Sometimes I feel that this world is full with ungrateful people. People who think that they achieved all the things in their life on their own. People who think that they are the smartest people in the world. People who think that they know everything but unfortunately they only think about themselves. ONLY THEMSELVES.
I'm trying to be positive each day but the feeling of not being appreciated has pull me my motivation down. Down to a very, very low level. I must just remind my heart to be more sincere each day in what I'm doing. Nursing is my heart and teaching is my soul. I shouldn't be asking for any token for doing what I love to do but it will feel even greater if it is acknowledge and appreciated.
I'm also trying very hard to be a better person each day. So, to all my friends and to all the people who read this, THANK YOU for all your support. I really appreciate it.
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