Practice makes perfect but nobody's perfect ...... so, why bother to practice?

Yes, people says practise makes perfect but then we also say that nobody is perfect. Which of this is really true? Contradicting right? Then, if nobody is perfect, why bother to practise anyway? Hhmnnn ....... good question?

Yeah! It is contradicting ...... if you say it together and it is even worse if you say it to an adolescent. This was the topic that somehow started with my sister on our journey back from a wedding yesterday. Reflecting it over and over .......... it can be quite confusing and funny.

Yes! Funny. It's funny how our brain works. It always think a way on how to protect the way we feel or how we want to feel about something. Doesn't matter whether it's right or wrong, our mind always has the way on how to protect ourselves.

I'm not a perfectionist but I do want the things that I do to be as perfect as it can. Of course, nobody is perfect. I believe that as long as we are human, we will never be 100% perfect. There's always room for improvement. There's always something to learn and something new to explore. There are new things everyday. Always something different to be found each day. If that is the case, how can we call ourselves as perfect .... agree?

If that is the case, why do we have to practise then?  Of course we have to practise. This is just something came from a very creative but yet manipulative mind. We have to practise with the things or skills that we are not good with until we are good with it. Not to say that we are 100% skillful but we are sure that we can do it safely. That's perfect. Anyway, that's only one tiny part of our life ....... far from being a perfect person.

So, think about it. Are we perfect? Do we need the practise for perfection? In the end, we want our life to be good. Or course, we will never be 100% perfect but at least the practise will make us good at something. Agree?

Money, love and happiness

I had a short conversation with my friend after a swimming lesson on Saturday. It was on the evergreen topic ....... MONEY. Yeah! We can't deny that we need money and it is one of the most important aspect of our life. Some will need the money just to maintain the everyday life. Some will struggle for some extra money to have a better tomorrow and maybe for some others, it is just to add into what they already have. So, the needs of having money does not limit to any person despite of the status, the purpose or even the amount of money they already have. Basically, everybody in this world need money but the thing is ....... how much do you need or how much of money will make you happy?

 Are you happy now or  will you be happier if you have more money? Only you ... yourself ....can answer this question.

People says  money doesn't but happiness but how true it is ............ it's up to the individual. If you ask me ........ I will agree with the statement (to a certain limit). I had some moment which I have some extra money but it didn't make me happy because I did not have my family to share it with me ........... not happy. I'm just a plain family woman and being with family is very important to me. Some people, they will only be happy when they have money because if you have money ........ you can buy lots of things, eat expensive food and obviously, people wants to be with you. People are even nicer to you. Then it reminds me to what my friend said " Money can buy love ........ but not the genuine love". You know what .........? I never thought of that.

Hhmnn ....... money does not buy genuine love. How can I missed that? Maybe because I was just thinking about the happiness. Still thinking about the genuine love vs fake love. Yeah ...... I think that is also very true. That is why the ladies are running for the rich man and the guys are running for the rich ladies (vice versa) Maybe, they are just running for the money, not the person. Hhmnn .... no wonder I'm still single. Maybe because I don't have the money he..he..

Whatever it is, again ..... it's up the the individual. It's up to you. There's no right or wrong in this matter. It's your life, you have the right how to manage you life. Whether you prioritize the money or family or career, it's your choice. I think, the most important thing is, do something that will make you happy. Do it because you want to ....... not because of anybody else.Whether you're seeking for money, love or happiness, I believe ...... the best is to balance all the three.

Life is short. Let us make the best of it.

What goes around .... comes around.

I truly believe that what ever you do in this life, it will comes back to us. If you do good, then good things will come to us but if you do otherwise, we will just just get accordingly too. Life is just a circle and it goes round and round. One day you will be on the top and some other day you might just end up at the bottom.

Yesterday, me and my colleague were just chit-chatting of what's happening in our organization. Some part-time or contract based staffs were not re-contracted after their contract finishes. The part-timer are no longer called for their services. We are just talking and trying to project about the things that's going to happen to us in the near future. Suddenly, one of my colleague came out with issues of immunity. It seems there are few people who seems to be immune or having such a high resistant toward all the commotions and she was mentioning about this particular person. This person doesn't seems to be worry even though she/he is not like by most people in the organization and  still happily putting harsh statements to other people. The thing is ........... this person is very,very well appreciated by the top management. Doesn't matter how many complains about this person, nothing will happen to her/him. So, we were wondering.

Yes, nothing happened .......YET! Sometimes, you can never tell what's going to happen to you. We must just be prepared. This person has been having this inappropriate attitude for as long as I knew the name. (about three years now). People keeps complaining about this person attitude but the miracle is ........... nothing bad happen to this person. Miracle isn't it?

Please don't get me wrong. I'm not praying for something bad to happen to this person but I'm just amazed with how ALLAH plans life for us. Subhanallah.

A PERSON with 100% immunity .......................... do they really exist? Me.....? I believe that as long as we are human, we will never be 100% immune to what we call life. In life, there's always up and down. There will always be a bumpy area even in the smooth highway. It's just how life is.

Some people are happy with hurting other people feelings. They claimed themselves as being out spoken but dont really understand the meaning of being out spoken. Being out spoken doesn't mean you can just say what ever you want without thinking of what other people might feel. Dressing up beautifully, covering all the aurat and claimed yourself as a Muslim but yet you raised you voice in every conversation and make all the inappropriate statements to anybody you like ......... what type of person are you?

I'm not commenting on any person in particular. What ever I'm writing is just from my reflections to remind me to always do good and feels good for others. I can also be very BOLD sometimes, but most of the time I'll try my best to use an appropriate words to say even when I'm angry. You'll never know how long you will be in this life or where will you be tomorrow or day after.  We can only pray for something good will be granted to us for all the good effort we put but only ALLAH knows what HE planned for us. It's only HE can decide the good and the bad for us but for every good deeds, Insyaallah good things will happen and vice versa. Whatever it is .......I still believe ....What goes around, will comes around.

There's no harm to dream ......it's free anyway.

Last night while I was browsing the internet, my daughter suddenly asked me to browse the picture of lamborghini cars. So, we searched for lamborghini cars image. Wow! the cars .... the kind that makes you drools. Such a beautiful car with great specifications. Immediately it caught my eyes and I select one the image to be the background of my desktop screen. Seeing my action, my daughter burst into laugh. She said 'Ma ... it's only in your dream'. Then I replied ' Sayang ....., there's no harm to dream. Success starts with a dream'.

Yes! There's no harm to dream and it's free anyway.  Actually, most of our success started with a dream. Most successful people started their story with a dream. They never stop to have their dreams and pursue it to make it real and ...... why are we stopping? Hhmnn ......then, I started reflecting my life. I think ..... lately, I don't have any dreams. That is why I feel that my life becaming so routine. I became too comfortable, too lazy to try new things, too much mumbling and grumbling.  Too comfortable that makes me so reluctant to try and venture into other things and this is NOT me. Not me at all. I used to have lots of dreams. Dreams that push me to move forward, dreams that gives me ideas, dreams that makes me who I am but now ....... I'm not sure.

Does it sound familiar to you? If it is, it means it's time to have a new dream. Dream that will lead us forward and becomes a better person with a better life, Insyaallah. Life is too short to waste and time will never wait for us. We must start to have a dream and pursue it through. Make it happen. Those who still have their dreams, congratulation to all of you. Don't stop. Dream for a better future.

My friends, doesn't matter how old we are, we should not stop to have a dream. There's no age limit and again ...... why should we stop? Just ask yourself because there's no harm to dream ..... it's free anyway.

I have a dream

Value of A Certificate

The last one and a half month, I've been reflecting, reflecting and reflecting but can't really see much from what I  was reflecting about. I'm just confused with my goals that I've set for my life. Last week, I started to come back to the centre of my mind, moving towards my goals again ....... hopefully. That's the explanation why I have been quiet from my writing.

Now,coming back to the reality, I'm actually struggling to finish my thesis. This is my last chance  It's very hard to juggle between being a parent, a teacher and a student at the same time. I always remind myself about the reason I did it in the first place, just to motivate myself. I know, it's not easy but it's not impossible. So, I will just struggle myself through.

If you know that you have work hard to get something that you want, then it will be meaningful. Lately, I'm seeing the trend of just getting things in an easy way. They said " if you have money, everything will be okay". I didn't really get it in the first place because I thought, if you are in an academic institution, then everybody will be struggling study like I do. But the thing is, some people don't really struggle for any of the certificate they have. You must just have money for it.

Of course you should have money for it because you will have to pay fees and other charges. At least that is what I thought. But I was not smart enough. You must just be smart and get other people to do it for you and you just have to pay them. What?? Really??

Yes, there are people who pay other people to do all the assignment for them. Hhmnn ....... they must be having a lot of money, right? But that is not the point. The point is ......... where is the value of the certificate that you get from the course that you are taking? How would you feel ........ having appreciation for something that you do not do? And the biggest issue  is ........ why did you do it in the first place? I just don't understand.

If you don't want to something ....... just don't do it. Why do you have to things that you don't really want to do? Why do you want to have a certificate just because other people is having the certificate? Why do you have to lie to other people and the worst of all ....... why do you have to lie to yourself?

I'm not pointing to anybody and I don't even have a written proof to show who's doing it. It's just that I happened to know somebody who did it and that person is not in the country any more but I believe there are people who's still doing it and it's not ethical.

I'm just writing this just to remind  my friends and also myself of the value of our achievement in our life. Success in life is evaluated in lots of different angle of achievement and can be very subjective. Just because other people achieved higher in academic, doesn't mean they are successful in life but having a meaningful achievement, will later bring success to our life.

We should lead the right path for the later generation. For those who wants to achieve more or higher in you academic achievement, please make it a value able and a meaningful achievement.
The word is ....... BE HONEST TO YOURSELF.

Leaders vs Bosses

Last year, I've attended a class of 'Leadership and Management' and I've to do an assignment on my organisation leadership and management style. My assignment ...... wasn't that good but what I found in the organisation ........ very, very interesting.

Nowadays, people always refer the top people in the organisation as LEADERS. Are they really LEADERS? Do they really lead you to something or they just tell you what to do ..... which also known as BOSSES? Just think about it. Which one do you prefer? A LEADER or a BOSS?

Hhmnn......... easy question ....... the answer ....... quite a dilemma.

'Hah! Why make things so complicated?' (At least that is what one of my friend said).'Leaders or bosses ..... what's the different ......they are still our superior'.

Yeah ........ agree ..... for both issues. First, I do sometimes make things a little bit complicated and leaders and bosses, they are the superior people. But .......... LEADERS and BOSSES are not the same and personally, I would prefer to be with the LEADERS instead of BOSSES.( ....if I have the choices)

So, what's the different between LEADERS and BOSSES? Okay, I'll just use what my friend paste on her desk. We'll just see if it's true.

1)    The BOSS drives his men.
       The LEADER inspire them.

It's true, it's true ...... bosses will just give orders and instructs the subordinate or the workers what to do. No question should be ask because they are the bosses. So, you'll just need to do what was told but LEADERS do not need to tell their people what to do because they just have that aura that really inspire people to do things.

2)   The BOSS depends on authority
      The LEADERS depends on goodwill.

Hhmnn ........ how many times have you seen that? Stressing on the power that they have ....?

3)   The BOSS evokes fear
      The LEADER radiates love.

Sounds familiar? Some even try as much as possible to avoid their BOSSES.

4)   The BOSS says "I"
      The LEADER says "we"

This is happening in lots of organisation. The BOSSES can't really focus on other people besides themselves. So, how can they see the "we".

5)   The BOSS shows who is wrong
      The LEADER shows what is wrong.

This ...... definitely happening in my work place. It's confirmed ...... I have a BOSS.

6)   The BOSS knows how it is done
      The LEADER know to do it.

That's why BOSSES always instruct. They just want the result but they will not show how to do it because most of the time ................ they don't know how do do it. (he..he..he..)

7)   The BOSS demands respect
      The LEADER commands respect.

Of course, the BOSSES want you to respect them and of course people will respect them when they are in-front of the BOSSES. Behind them ........ only ALLAH knows but LEADERS ....... people will just respect them where ever the go.

Can you see now ...... there are differences between BOSSES and LEADERS. What do you think? Is it true? Hopefully, it will help you reflect again on the issue. At least it did help me really think about it and sum up with all the theories I learnt in the classes.

My friends, I believe, it's easier to be a BOSS than to be a LEADER and it's even more fun to be a BOSS than to be a LEADER but it's totally  up to the individual whether to be a BOSS or to be a LEADER. Insyaallah, all of us will be a good LEADER one day.

'Special' people

Are you special?

What make you special?

If you gets lot of A's in your exam ....... does it makes you special?
If you are related to the royalty or celebrities .......... does it makes you special?
If you work with the top management people and rubbing shoulders with all the Dato' or Tan Sri ..... does that makes you extra special?

So, ....... what's my point? My point is .......it's only you can make yourself special.

Last month, someone park at my car park which is located for me by the company with the car number written on the lot. I want to get angry but to get angry for a parking space .......... not really worth the energy. So, I just  keep things cool and just left a message telling the car owner that the parking space is allocated for me, and I'm working everyday and I need the parking space.

So, the next day, the same car park at my parking space again. I was like hurgghh!!! Trying not to be angry ..... but I'm just a human okay. What I did was ...... I just park my car behind that car with the s****d owner.

Ha..ha..ha .. just guess what happened? Chaos ....... it was chaotic because I'm kind of blocking the traffic a little (but it was fun!!) and somebody came to warned me that I must beware of my action because I've park behind a 'special' persons' car. The person is a 'special' person to Dato'. I was like .......'are you kidding me?'

So, coming back to the topic .....'special' people. What makes the 'special' person to Dato' very, very special that she can just ignore my note and just park at my car park? What makes her so special that I have  to beware of my action? Just because she is a 'special' person to Dato' does not mean she is special to everybody or can just be rude to everybody. Right?? I had to move my car to another place but I'm satisfied because I got my message noticed and got my car park back the next day.

Aren't we all special? I believe I am special, my children are special, my families are special, my friends and everybody around me are special on their own way. We must believe, we are special in our own way. Some  human is blessed and chosen by ALLAH to be more special than others but that is a whole different story. But we are also blessed with our own speciality. Acknowledge yourselves. There's no one can make you less special except yourself.

My 'Special'